greedy non romantic bf? or i exaggirate?

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Registered: 08-23-2006
greedy non romantic bf? or i exaggirate?
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Thu, 02-14-2008 - 6:25am

hi, really need ur 50cents on this...


2.5 weeks ago i started dating a friend. actually when we met back in october he was clear he wanted to date me but i was not ready. took me 3 months to realise that he is always there and that he is great to me. we started going out...


and i felt a change in his ways. before he would never let me pay -now i have a feeling he expects it and as i always propose he even lets me pay in the restaurants at times. when i stayed over his place last weekend he took me to the supermarket to buy food and bought lots of personal things as well - we still split the bill.


it started REALLY bothering me last night, when i realised he is not going to make a slightest effort for Valentine's. the thing is - i just started working and before that for 2 months i didnt have salary and our constant going out and me often paying or splitting the huge bills made me broke. he is aware of my financial situation but since i never complain or bring up money talk he acts as if all is fine


other than that he is great, caring, loving. but i want a romantic non greedy guy. and i dont understand this sudden change. since last night i avoid him and cant hide my weird mood. he asked lots of tiems what is wrong but how to tell him this? tonight im leaving for a long weekend so we'll meet only on Monday.


I feel that there is no romance in our relatinship and that he could be more generous as a guy. Its not the money matter in itself. I was just brought up differently i guess and i dont like greedy people


what should i do? talk to him? give him another chance and see what happens? He is hell worried now since yday night but i have no wish to talk to him or see him. i feel disappointed...like he stopped making efforts way too early....

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Registered: 12-22-2005
Thu, 02-14-2008 - 11:22am
Tell him calmly, how you feel.

Gal Blondie

Gal Blondie

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Registered: 02-05-2008
Thu, 02-14-2008 - 4:51pm

Hi Picky,


Welcome to the board.


I agree that you should tell him.

 
iVillage Member
Registered: 11-10-2007
Thu, 02-14-2008 - 7:02pm

Is he greedy or just not in a financial position to always pay for both of you?

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Registered: 08-23-2006
Mon, 02-18-2008 - 5:30pm

thank you all for replies.i was away for this weekend and logged on just today.u were right, talking was a key.we met today and talked.all i needed to say was that it feels we lack romance for a couple that's been together less than a month.

he was sweet.i realised that i'm a silly cow.although it served us both a good lesson.i should kick back and let him treat me (without taking out my purse everytime he makes a move) and he admit that he was afraid to scare me away with too much romance. so, phew, feels much better. i even got a bouquet of flowers just before dinner. unexpected,while he was away to buy missing ingredients for our dinner.

thanks once again. it helps to have an objective view. i was afraid to talk about these things with him. but i guess when u expect something u should ask for it or strongly hint. otherwise hard to guess what's important for another

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Registered: 11-10-2007
Mon, 02-18-2008 - 6:00pm
Glad to hear things are going well.