I don't get him

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-10-2005
I don't get him
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Sun, 02-17-2008 - 4:02pm
I used to go to school with a great guy. He liked me at the time but I had a boyfriend so nothing ended up happening with it. He recently emailed me asking me how i was doing and asking if i wanted to go on a date with him. He took me out and it went very well. I didn't feel much of a spark but i figured that maybe it was just too early. The next day he emailed me and told me he had a lot of fun and asked for a 2nd date and i agreed. He picked me up with flowers and chocolate but he signed his card "from your good friend". I got confused and i asked him where he wanted the relationship to go? He told me that he's too busy for a girlfriend and he considers us as going out on dates as friends. He then asked me if i wanted to go on a 3rd date. I just don't understand why he would label them as dates, pay for the dates, get me gifts and ask me how i feel about him if he thinks of us as friends. I don't want to start feeling things for him and for him to keep seeing this as a friendship. Why is he sending so many mixed messages?
iVillage Member
Registered: 11-10-2007
Sun, 02-17-2008 - 4:22pm

I dont get him either.

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-05-2008
Mon, 02-18-2008 - 1:01am

Hi Alana,


Welcome to the board!


If he's making it clear that you are just firends, than that's the best way to take the relationship.