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| Tue, 09-19-2006 - 2:55pm |
I have posted many times about the situation with my MIL and SIL. Things are ok. But I feel like right now I am just existing with my DH. I do feel angry anymore- just sad and confused. I feel nothing, numb. I was looking at our wedding photos today and I felt nothing. It is hard to believe at one point we were so happy and life was so sweet. It is amazing that it can be sucked right out of a person. It is hard to believe that my feeling have changed toward him because of the situation with them. I do not look at him the same- or really feel the same. How do I get us back- will the us ever come back? This is not how it is supposed to be after only 3 months of marriage. I feel so sad and confused.....
Truly.
B

B,
I understand what you are feeling. When the whole situation happened with my MIL I was furious at DH. I looked at him differently for a while. What helped us was going to get counseling. I know it doesn't work for some couples, but it's working for us. I would suggest it.
GL
Liz
I am sorry you're feeling so down. I went back and re-read your previous posts to refresh my memory on the situation. The last you posted you were going to tell your SIL that you would not stand up for her at her wedding. What happened when you told her? What did your DH say about your decision?
You said in one of your posts that you and your DH are already in counseling. I hope it helps and gets you to a point where you can heal your relationship with him.
Please hang in there and post more when you can and feel like it.
Madalot
When I insist that I am 'right," I slam the door of my mind. I remain locked in past
I did not tell her. Things ended up getting really nasty with my MIL and I just felt that I could not handle much more of them. I knew by not standing that would not see where I was coming from- any other normal person would think, "my god- what have I done to create such a choice." They would only think I am truly the big b@tch that they already think I am. I had to sit and think- this whole situation is ruining me- my relationship with my Dh- it is worth it. And after I sat for a long time- it was not to me... I want to get my life back- me back- my relatioship with DH back. Nothing would ever change them- even standing or not. SO I agreed to stand- not for her- but for me. Because I could not take the heartache anymore.
We are in counseling- and it helping but my dh is having a hard time seeing the two of them for who they realy are. And he is having a hard time seeing past this wedding.
I feel so drained for all of this... It breaks my heart to think we have come to this....