1 more sign--am i crazy?? too sensitive?

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Registered: 09-20-2006
1 more sign--am i crazy?? too sensitive?
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Fri, 09-22-2006 - 12:54pm

I just have to share this last one with you guys.

We went out to lunch to a Japanese reataurant (she loves taking us out to fancy shmancy restaurants). I wasn't familiar with the things on the menu. My man of course helped me to find something on the menu that I liked (terriaki chicken).

Anyhow, on one of the apetizer plates, there was a flourescent bright orange gelatin substance (it looked like little tiny dots). I thought it was just for decoration. We were all sampling the different appetizers. She suggested that I try some of it. I take a mouthful of it. But it didn't taste like anything!

AFTER I swallow the mouthful, a smile comes across her face. She said, "those were fish eggs." I wanted to vomit. Why would she tell me to try a tasteless, flavorless substance like that?! I try to rationalize it. But there is no reason, but meanness.

By the way, I just ignored her. I think she wanted me to flip out. But I just said oh. And didn't comment. Although on the inside I was thinking (I'm never going to trust her again, at least when it comes to unidentified foods).

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Registered: 11-21-2003
Fri, 09-22-2006 - 2:55pm
I think your seriously over reacting to this one
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Registered: 09-20-2006
Fri, 09-22-2006 - 3:43pm
You may be right. But based on her track record, I wouldn't put it past her. I guess I'm just a little jaded after all that I've seen from her. But I appreciate all the advice. Everyone on the message board has been so nice and supportive, and very honest.
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Registered: 08-21-2006
Fri, 09-22-2006 - 6:58pm

hi, is your name sweetlady? I was trying to figure it out what it stands for.

Anyway, you know, in a situation like that, it's a call you have to make with your gut. I love sushi, the fish eggs aren't my favorite but I'm getting more used to them. However, I would never do what she did to you to someone else. Some people would i guess. I think that's more appropriate behavior with buddies, not in-laws. i don't recall your other probs with her, but you mention that you have some. that makes me think that what she did to you wasn't cool. Your gut tells you far more than anybody else can. Tune into it and realize that your intuition is there to help you and protect you. People can do the same things but it's the motive behind it, or the general feeling they have that counts!

What's in this woman's heart towards you? That is what matters. A great book i recommend to learn how to feed your intuition and make it into your strongest ally is Women Who Run With The Wolves by Clarissa Pinkola Estes. That book is strange at first, I put it down alot in the beginning but as you read deeper into it, you begin to realize something that our culture has taken from women.

Anyway, trust your instincts and I agree, I wouldn't trust her.

cbc

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Registered: 01-08-2006
Fri, 09-22-2006 - 11:37pm
It's a good rule of thumb not to eat anything if you don't know what it is.
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Registered: 05-05-2003
Sat, 09-23-2006 - 2:26pm
If she wasn't trying to set you up, she would have called the dish by its proper name and not, "fish eggs". I don't find that dish gross, but its hard to enjoy it when someone is purposely trying to put you off of it.