In-law interaction question
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| Thu, 09-28-2006 - 5:26pm |
Hi,
My spouse (E-) and I live in my in-laws house (kind of like caretakers). They only are home a couple of weekends a year.
We have been thinking about getting a dog, so we e-mailed them asking if it would be OK. My MIL said you will have to talk to my FIL.
Is it OK if I call him, or should I leave it to E-? I do have some control issues and I KNOW that E- will not plead out case as well as I would. (They had a dog 6-7 years ago that was a terror, E- did not "caretake" him well and my MIL gave him away. This was before my time.)
E- is not do home for a few hours, so should I call them or wait for him? I so do not want to wait, or let him be the one to call. :) I am trying to be rational, so what is your opinion?
Background: My In-laws are wonderful people, very laid back (almost hippie like). I do get along with my MIL better. My FIL is quite the talker with an odd sense of humor that I do not always get. He is extremely smart, and likes to tease. On the phone with him I have the tendency to stick a small foot in my mouth, but just a small foot.

"we e-mailed them asking if it would be OK. My MIL said you will have to talk to my FIL."
So you drafted the e-mail together? If so, then you two should read the answer together, and then discuss what step to take next.
Or, by "we," did you really mean, "me?"
I meant "we".
I could not wait. I called and he said he wanted to think about it. But it went well, and I listened to his objections and rebutted what I could. He does not want us to get a mastiff, so I said American Bulldog. He was going to look into the breed and get back to "us" by email.
I had a friend tell me because it was not going to be the first time I called them that it was OK to call him then. I only stuttered a little bit. :)
Jessa