Need help!!Living w/ in-laws

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Registered: 10-10-2006
Need help!!Living w/ in-laws
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Tue, 10-10-2006 - 10:37am
Hi. I just got married 9 months ago. It's amazing to be married to a guy like him. We started our married life in a small aparment in Florida and got pregnat. Things got bad (we didnt have enough money to buy groceries sometimes)and we decided to go back home. since we did not have any money, he had the brilliant idea to move in with his parents. They are good people,but also nosy and bossy. They dont advice; they tell you what to do even though you disagree. My husband is used to that, but I hate this situation. They want me to do what the think is right. He and I are having problems about this. I am sad and feel alone. After he comes home from work instead of having some time together, he sits down at the table and talks for hours with his parents while I am all quite. His mom is nice but does not listen very well, and his dad is very difficult and stubborn. Now we have our precious baby, and things are more difficult. I feel more sad and alone. When they come to see my baby, they take over and act like they cant hear me. I have tried to talk with my husband about my feelings and how great would be to have our privacy again (his parents enter our room without permission sometimes), but nothing works. Everytime we talk about it, we end up very upset and me crying alone. We dont have enough money to find a place yet because he decided to pay his dad back (dad loaned us some money while in Florida), but I need to get out of that house before I go crazy. Please help me with your advice.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 10-10-2006 - 7:45pm

Your husband doesn't earn enough money for you two to have an apartment? If that is the case, I don't see how you can move out. Do you have a plan? Can he get another job?

It is up to your husband to CHOOSE spending his time with you. As you know, the best way to encourage this is to use honey, rather than vinegar (or stern lectures, LOL). Before he plunks himself down at the table, can you tempt him to join you in an evening walk, or a little one-on-one time in your room? Just tossing out ideas. Good luck.