Here we go again...

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Registered: 11-18-2004
Here we go again...
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Thu, 10-19-2006 - 1:40pm
Well, for the people who know my problem with my mother, here's a little update. She has really gone off the deep end this time. I had stopped talking to here on the phone, but I got a phone call today. She asked me what was wrong with me. I just told her that she should learn to quit talking about people. Well, she went off, she tried to guess every possible person who could have told me she was talking crap about me too. I told her that she needed to take responsibility for what she said. She REFUSED! SHE SAID SHE DID NOTHING, ABSOLUTELY NOTHING WRONG!!! I couldn't believe it. She then went on to tell me she thinks I have the mental problem, (YEAH right!!) and that she doesn't think my fiance is the right man for me. With that, I hung up on her. Well she called back and I answered and I told her to give me one good reason why he wasn't the one for me. The only reason she thinks he is not the one for me is because he disagreed with her. I wish everyone here could have heard her on the phone, it was ridiculous. I have a feeling that this may be it, cause I'm soooo tired of dealing with her. I'm relieved on the one hand, but I know she will keep me from seeing my brother. That breaks my heart, but I have a feeling he will learn in time. This has really opened my eyes to what kind of person she is. She is someone who has to be right all the time, she is selfish, she is petty. I think back to my childhood and it just all makes so much sense now. I think she has always been crazy, I just see it more now that I am an adult. Is it wrong to never want to speak to your own mother again? I told her that I would never ever pick her over my fiance. She assumes that I am not happy, and I corrected her and told her the only person who doesn't make me happy is her! I am so happy with my fiance, he is the love of my life. I am just having a hard time believing I once lived inside my mother. I am almost in shock at her behavior, and at the same time it explains so much. So what do you guys think?
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 10-20-2006 - 4:26pm
I think that you are doing the right thing. You Mom is crazy. She knows she did something wrong, but she will never admit it, then to turn around and put it all on you? Now who is the one with the mental problems. If she keeps your brother from you I believe that you can take her to court and get visitation to see him. But I am not positive on that. I would call a family attorney and find out if you have any rights. Just remember you aren't obligated to have such a toxic person in your life. Keep us posted.

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Registered: 11-18-2004
Fri, 10-20-2006 - 5:22pm
Thanks for the reply! I will keep you posted...