Update on Holiday Plans

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Update on Holiday Plans
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Thu, 10-19-2006 - 10:59pm

I found out from DH that his dad and step-mom are probably going to AZ for a couple of months so they probably won't be here for Thanksgiving. Yipee, Yipee!! We can do Thanksgiving with just the two of us like we used to before we moved.

I'm kind of bummed because his family always gives DH a card and money...I'm the one who makes sure they get cards for holidays, birthdays, etc. and I just had a birthday and got nothing. They wished me a happy birthday through DH. So next year when DH's birthday comes along, I'm going to tell him if he gets a card or money, I don't want to know about it! I have no immediate family except for DH and his family; my brother passed away in March of this year. My cousin usually sends me a card but she's traveling and I haven't heard from her since she stopped to visit us in July. And the In-Laws know that I don't have immediate family; DH and I went for dinner (he isn't working so I bought).

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Fri, 10-20-2006 - 3:37pm
Obviously you are not family to them. So, stop doing anything for them. No cards, gifts, or anything. Since you are not "family", why bother? If they whine, tell them to talk to DH, who IS their "family".
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Fri, 10-20-2006 - 4:42pm
I agree. They aren't worth the effort. If you aren't good enough to send a card too, or at least call, then they should get nothing from you. If you are the one buying the cards for his family, then don't let it fall on your Dh. They are his family, so its his job to buy their cards, not yours. At least you won't have to see them for Thanksgiving.

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Fri, 10-20-2006 - 6:05pm
I agree with mom2danjam and cl-mugalug. I wouldn't send them cards or anything anymore. If DH wants to send them cards and/or gifts, he can do it on his own.

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