Sister-In-Law Advice
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| Mon, 10-23-2006 - 2:58pm |
I don't if I am overeacting, but I have noticed somethings about my sister-in-law that bug me. She is my husband's brother's wife. She will talk to me and make converstation if and only if it's just the two of us or the 4 of us. I have noticed at every single family party or group event she will say hi and talk to me if I make the effort, but other wise will not go out her way and will talk to everyone else there, but me unless i go talk to her. When it's just us she is nice. I never did anything to her and she is very assertive and if I did do something to offend her she would let me know it.
I just get the impression she doesn't want to be bothered. At first i thought i was just overeacting, but it has happened too many times.
I am not comfortable confronting her and asking her. I just don't know what her problem is and wanted to vent.
Can anyone relate?
Thanks, NEW Wed

Hi Newwed5, welcome to the board!
Maybe she doesn't want to be bothered or maybe she doesn't want to be chummy with you. Maybe she just isn't comfortable with getting too comfy with family members. Maybe it is nothing personal and that is just the way she is. Is she the same way around others or is it just you? I wouldn't worry about it too much since she is pleasant towards you.
Whatever. Thanks for your input! Newly Wed
Could it be that she just doesn't know you all too well? Your screen name implies that you are a newly wed, how long have you known her and been involved in with his family at gatherings? If she's been there a while she just may feel more comfortable around the rest of them becuase she doesn't know you very well.
Because you say that she says hi and in groups she talks with you, and when you innitiate she talks to you, I don't think it is something personal against you. I think it's her and her comfort level with you and opening up with you.
How comfortable do you make her feel around you?
Are you and your sister-in-law normally friends? Do you see each other more than you see the rest of the family? Do you think she's maybe just trying to visit with people she doens't see often, or does it feel like a real blow-off? I know myself at big family gatherings, I really try to get around to see everybody and probably talk a bit more to people I hardly see than to the people I see all the time (though I would say Hi to my SIL and chat for a bit, but it sounds like yours says nothing?)