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| Fri, 10-27-2006 - 2:22pm |
I am confused after last night. My one SIL2B comes up every other weekend or what seems like every chance she gets when her boys don't have anything going on, and stays at mine and DH2B's house whenevery they come up because there is no room at their parents to stay. Well I had been mad at her, because she comes up all the time and it doesn't seem like she asks if it's ok. I'm a person who likes to have time to myself after the work week. I don't mind company, but sometimes I just don't want company that stays the whole weekend. And right now DH2b and I need this time to get to know each other better and figure some things out before we get married. Is that so wrong to have that time together? We both work full time jobs and then there are animals to feed, so we don't have much time during the week nights to spend with each other. I'm lucky if he's in the house by 8:00 pm.
Any way DH2B mentioned to me that we would be having company next weekend (first weekend in nov.). I said his sister had already told me. Then I mentioned to him (again) we need to talk about how much she comes up to visit. I have tried to talk to him about it before, but all he says is "I konw" and doesn't tell me anything else. It's like he's not telling me everything. I told him that last night when he clamed up (that he's not telling me something). Then he said "maybe I like my family coming up." I asked if he had ever thought about what is going to happen after we get married and have a family. "Yes, but that's down the road, things change" is all DH2B said. I told him we need to get this figured out.
What I'm confused about is, is he that close to his sister he has to have her come up or does she just come up cause she thinks she needs to and he's afraid to make her mad by telling her no she can't come up? I don't get it. I have never heard him say anything bad about his sisters or heard any of them fight. Maybe I came from the bad family but complain about my sister, and she's my best friend. I know she complains about me too. Yes, my sister is over some but she's 20 miles away and his sister is 2hrs away. He has another sister who is about 5 hrs. away. There are times I've told my sister no she cant' come over. It's not like my sis is over everyday, just every once in a while.
Sorry if some of this sounds choppy and doesn't make any sense. I was just trying to keep it short. If someone has any suggestions how to work this out let me know.
Thanks
D

JOANNE
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Thank you for making me feel like I'm not alone and feeling like I'm going crazy over something stupid. I also worry about making H2B mad about telling his sister no she cant' come. Now I know I won't worry about it, because its my house to. Again, thank you for the help!
D