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| Wed, 11-15-2006 - 1:07am |
^_^ Hi Ladies! How are you all fairing? I'm so-so at the moment, but hopefully it will get better. First the happy news: I'm 21 weeks pregnant and my little Alexandria is doing just fine. My fiance and I will be married during the last week of this month, and we are both excited to have a small ceremony until we have the huge one next June. We've been window shopping around on baby stuff for our little shopping spree around Christmas time since she'll be born around March 27th, and I want to have her room ready, etc. Please pray for our new little family ^_^
Here's the not so good news: Just this past Saturday, we went about 3 hours away to a rural town where his best friend just recently moved to be near his own parents (my fiance's Godparents..really nice people). My fiance's mother happened to be down there since she's best friends with his Godmother, and decided to spend the weekend. This woman never stops!! She's down there trying to make everyone feel sorry for her, and telling all kinds of lies on me!! I didn't find this out until I spoke with wife of fiance's best friend, and oh did she tell me a lot. She basically confirmed what I already knew, but also told me that my fiance's parents are still not happy that we're together, and definitely are NOT happy about the baby whatsoever. The funny thing is his mother fakes being all happy about the baby, wanting to buy stuff...she should just stop acting and be real for once. Just a few hours ago, his ex calls his cell phone, and of course you know I called back but the phone wasn't answered. This is same ex who his mother keeps in contact with and had her call the moment we moved to the other side of town. Yes, I know his mother had something to do with this because she doesn't call otherwise. Again, that wicked witch is up to no good. The week before we get married, we will be able to get the home number changed and new cell phones, so he can give the family cell phone back to his mom. My fiance said that he will call/visit his mom ( I get to be there for it) to deal with her on giving out his number in the first place and telling not to give out the new one. He's also going to call the ex back (I get to be on the phone to hear it) that she needs to stop calling and concentrate on her marriage. She's being prompted by his mother to call him just to stir things up. I'm getting so sick of this woman. One thing is for sure, she will never be near my kids with antics like this. What do you ladies think?

Keep away from her. It sounds like you have your husband on your side, so that is half the battle. I can understand being shocked and a little upset over you getting pregnant and not being married first, but whats' done is done. She needs to get over herself. If she cannot act decently, cut her off.
I am curious. If you already married, why are you having ANOTHER wedding? I have never known anyone to have two weddings.
^_^ The reason why we're having two weddings: In the beginning we were going to get married early anyway through Justice of The Peace, and my fiance still wanted to have a church ceremony for everyone else in June like we planned in the beginning, and so we will be doing that.
My fiance and I talked extensively about having a child and when to do that. We knew that before this year would be over that we we're going to be married. We also really wanted to have a child. Yes, it does seem a bit out of the order of things but that's what we decided as a couple. His mother being shocked and upset? I seriously doubt it has to do with the pregnancy just before marriage, since she was pregnant with my fiance a lot longer before she married his father. So really she has nothing to be upset about in that regard. LOL..as a matter of fact, she kept nagging us to give her a grandchild when she thought she could control our relationship that is. Wanting to look at baby clothes, and things like that for encouragement, and how cute the baby would look, etc. When she couldn't get her way, then all of a sudden she's upset.
What she's really upset about? She's mad because she can't get her agenda across in our relationship. If she can't get her way, then she throws a fit. Even before we thought about a child: she would push what she wanted about how our child should be raised, ie religion, marriage plans, anything she could to control it. When she realized that we've already discussed those things and made a decision, she gets upset that she can't control her son or me, and starts acting like a fool and causing trouble. She try to manipulate her son with the 'sick act', try to change his mind on 'our' decisions to undermine it, throws temper tantrums, and if all else fails, calls his ex to call him to stir up trouble once again.
I've talked to my fiance's best friends and they've told me that this is how she is. She has basically tried to ruin every relationship that he's ever been in to get her way by starting trouble, even my fiance admits to that. This is all about control. I WILL NOT allow her to ruin our relationship because she wants to act like a spoiled brat.
She didn't want him moving to the other side of town, and threw a fit about it, then called his ex. She's a control freak who needs to pay attention to her own relationship with her husband and get a life. Now, she's upset because we've decided that she will NOT be around our child if she continues to act like a fool and cause trouble, and she knows it. She has not genuinely apologized for the trouble she causes, just denies it, but claims she apologizes which is a lie. Taking responsibility for her actions seems to be foreign to her. Is he an only child? Yes. Does that give her the right to attempt to destroy his relationship like she did all his previous ones because she's selfish? NO
LOL..he's going into his late 20's, it's about time to cut the cord. He still calls and visits his mom, as well he should, but this is too much. In essence, she wanted him to be a momma's boy and is upset because he's not, and thank GOD he's not one.