Is it just me or is this a little creepy

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Registered: 11-23-2006
Is it just me or is this a little creepy
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Fri, 11-24-2006 - 12:50am
Today for Thanksgiving dinner we went to my hubby's house (we are newlyweds).His dad decided to give me some sexy lingerie as a gift before we left to go home tonight. He said "turn my son out!" Though his father is a sweet man, I found this just a bit wired. Is it just me or is this freaky? LOL I didn't even know you got gifts on Thanksgiving! Maybe I'm making something out of nothing...
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Fri, 11-24-2006 - 8:29am

That's just totally gross. I would watch yourself around him. Oh and show your DH what he bought you, wait for his reaction, then tell him how you feel if he has a bad opinion as well. He may think the world of his dad, and if you

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Mon, 11-27-2006 - 1:08am

that is totally creepy.

personally there is no way in hell I would ever wear it - straight in the trash it would go. And I would tell him too if he ever asked. fil - that was really inappropriate and please do not buy me something like that again

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Registered: 10-04-2005
Mon, 11-27-2006 - 8:14am

It is creepy from a FIL. But more importantly, that's completely inappropriate for any man to give you other than your DH. How would you feel if it was your DH's friend or cousin or brother? Just because it's your FIL doesn't mean it's okay. Be very wary around him.

Did your MIL know about this?

Did you tell your DH? What did he say?

And no, gifts for Thanksgiving aren't really normal, especially not like that.

M2E

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Mon, 11-27-2006 - 5:58pm

While I think this is very weird - I wouldn't necessarily jump to any conclusions. The key here is: what does your DH think? If he thinks its "normal" - his family may not have a problem with it. My mother sent me a special wedding gift of lingerie and DH thought that was weird. My mother knows I'm practical and wanted to make sure I had something appropriate for my wedding night. Its just clothes to us.

For xmas last year, DH's mother got him a penthouse calendar with completely naked women. (not even swimsuits/lingerie on). I thought that was VERY inappropriate - even kind of gross. DH didn't think anything of it. Of course, I had to be the "bad guy" and demand that DH not bring that into our home.

Every family has different values and beliefs. Only your DH knows his dad well enough to determine what this is about. I would make sure to ask him how you should tell FIL that this is "out of bounds" for you w/o offending him. Remember, men are really not that bright when it comes to gifts and things. There is still a possibility that he doesn't realize how inappropriate this is.

GL,
Dee