I wish that my MIL would stay away
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I wish that my MIL would stay away
| Mon, 11-27-2006 - 4:28pm |
Today is my sons Birthday, and I had planned to go to his school and deliver cupcakes to his whole class. I made my DH promise that he would not tell his mother about the party, for I knew that she would show up and make me look bad in front of his teacher, but I swear that woman has some kind of sixth sense, because she has a nack for telling if something has been kept from her. She soon started to pester my DH about our sons party. Eventually he couldnt resist her kryptonite and caved in. So now she is planning on showing up at the school. I have to leave in a few minutes and my stomache is turning. All I can think of is what kind of stunt she is going to pull.

I hope it went okay. What an obnoxious twit! Did your son have fun?
Would it help to give your husband some specific techniques for dealing with his mother? Offer to role-play them with him? So he can practice being firm with her.
Such as responding to her *first* dig with something like, "Mom, if there was something to tell you, I would tell you." Then the second one with, "If you are going to nag/harass/pester/dig at me, I'll hang up. " And if she continues, "I see you are choosing to end the call. I love you Mom, goodbye. " then let the machine take all of her calls for the next hour or two or three.
If she is more interested in relationship than in control, she'll "learn the lesson". If she is more interested in control than relationship, well, now he has tools to shut her down and show her that *he* is in control of him, not her!
You could always tell him that if he continues to leak information, you will be forced - by him - to "plug the leak" by not keeping *him* informed of events. Does he want to be shut out because he will (not cannot, WILL not) not stop *allowing* his mother to get info out of him? That's a bit harsh, so you may want to keep that one rhetorical.
Good luck!
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