Why Do They Dislike Me?????

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Registered: 11-30-2006
Why Do They Dislike Me?????
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Thu, 11-30-2006 - 3:13pm
His mother is often very rude and snobby to me!!
His sister wrote horrible things about me on the internet to his ex-gf! Lots of name calling and quite upseting things... Because I am quite shy and quiet, although I have tried realy hard to join in conversations!
I have been nothing but nice!! Why would they be like this?
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Registered: 05-15-2003
Thu, 11-30-2006 - 3:52pm
I don't think they have to have a real reason. It could be just because you married their darling son and brother. Maybe it is because you are different, more than likely, there is absolutely no reason at all.
Have you talked to your husband about his mother's behavior toward you? Maybe he needs to stand up and have a talk with his mother and sister about how he expects them to treat his wife and accept nothing less.
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Registered: 03-09-2006
Thu, 11-30-2006 - 6:24pm

It could be any number of things. It could be something profound or petty. You could probably figure out why if you sat and really thought about it. Either you've done something, or they are just mean unkind people.

What ever reason you discover, you should really look at your boyfriend and ask yourself if you truly want to volunteer to marry into THAT family.

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Registered: 10-12-2006
Fri, 12-01-2006 - 10:13am
I have gone through and am going through a similar situation with my in-laws, my husband is at least 18 yrs young than his youngest older sister, and they have gone out of their way to make me feel unwelcomed to the family since we married. We've been married almost 4 yrs and nothing has really changed. Once they saw hubby and I stopped coming around they would be fake and be nice be saying little things to try and make me want to come around but I could tell they werent being genuine. It does hurt because I havent done anything wrong to them, but i've come to realize that they really have no reason to dislike me but they do because I married their precious baby brother. Its like they are mad cause they think he doesnt need them anymore or something, so stupid. Anyway if I were you I would talk with your husband and tell him your feelings he should say something to them on your behalf (my hubby did) and if they continue acting like children then you two may have to remove yourself from family gatherings for a while.
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Registered: 03-19-2003
Fri, 12-01-2006 - 11:15pm

Hi Youngandspanish, welcome!

Have you talked to your boyfriend about his family?

How do you know that your bf's sister is writing nasty things on the internet to his ex?

Other than his sister allegedly writing nasty things about you on the internet, is there anything else that they have done to indicate that they don't like you? Are they polite to you when they see you? Do they invite you over?

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