Just Married!! ^_^

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Registered: 08-21-2006
Just Married!! ^_^
Thu, 11-30-2006 - 7:27pm

Hi Ladies!! How are you all doing? I hope everything is going well for you and your in-laws aren't making you stress too much.

As of this morning, my fiance and I were joined in matrimony. ^_^ I'm so happy about this and any advice from you wise ladies who've been married and have more experience than I would be great as we start our lives together finally. That was the good news. My husband says that he will wait 2 weeks to tell his mother since she will not be spoiling our happy time by acting up. It seems that everyone knows except her.

Here's what happened the weekend before: We decided to go down to visit my fiance's best friend and soon to be bride to spend some time with them. It was quite fun and the soon-to-be bride and I get along wonderfully, so I know we'll be good friends. His bestfriend made the mistake of telling his own parents that we'd be there forgetting that my fiance's mom would come over just to cause drama as soon as she heard about it since she was also there for the weekend visiting her friends (fiance's bestfriend's parents). Well sure enough she came over, didn't say a word (which was fine by me since I was extremely busy in the kitchen cooking anyway), and started acting a fool the moment she went outside with my fiance saying horrible things about me. Her throwing an unfounded hissy fit did not sit well with my fiance and she knew it. She then went into her 'sick and feeble' act, started crying and pouting, and he still was not moved by her performace. She then tried to get him to move away, from me of course, into that area, and was saying to everyone there that 'it won't happen' regarding our marriage because she does not want us to be wed.

It's sad to say, but she really needs help, and has still not given up causing trouble for us. My husband is getting to the point of resenting her because she just will not stop. He even said himself that with her behavior, she will not be anywhere near our child because he will not subject us to her constant drama. She even called his ex again to get her to call him some weeks ago. I personally handled that call and that problem is solved..there will be no calls like that ever again. Just to know that his mother is still pulling stunts like this has gotten me to the point of laughing now instead of being upset. I will not let her steal my joy and keep me upset. If she wants to act a fool, she can do it all by herself.

We've joined together in writing a letter to her and she will receive it at around the same time when she finds out that we're married. The letter will express all the feelings we have reagrding her causing trouble for us, in a polite way of course, and how we've setup our relationship, etc. I'm sure the stuff will really hit the fan when she finds out because she didn't want it to happen anyway. There is really nothing more she can do to us but keep trying the same old tricks over again, which will cause her own son to really not deal with her if she doesn't stop it.