MIL is driving me out!!!

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Registered: 12-06-2006
MIL is driving me out!!!
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Wed, 12-06-2006 - 3:30pm

The story goes like this:

My MIL and FIL lives with me DH and 2 kids in our house. We pay all their expenses. do errands for them. They don’t drive so we take them everywhere. Both of us work.
She watches my 2 yr old. But does not help with housework, except occasional cooking. We have no privacy at home. She reigns over the living room watching TV and asks me and my kids to leave the room if they make a noise.

3 years back we sponsored them to come and live with us in Canada because they claimed to be sooo lonely back home She started to criticize everything about me. She even told me that she never liked me in the first place. Recently I went through a personal tragedy when my mother died….she not so much as showed any sympathy.

I now feel trapped in that house. Don’t know what to do. My in laws cannot support themselves and therefore need to stay with us: as per DH.
The only way I can live with her under the same roof is if she keeps to her limits and behaves properly : some one has to tell her and it has to be DH.

Dh is the only child. He just wants to avoid a conflict. I feel trapped at home.

I have decided to walk out of this situation even though it means hardships for my kids.
Need advice desperately.

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Registered: 05-15-2003
Wed, 12-06-2006 - 4:00pm
This definitely sounds like the point where DH needs to make a decision to choose between his parents or his wife and children. We all know that the correct choice would be to make some other arrangements for his parents and honor his commitment to you and his children. If he cannot see this, maybe you and the children just need to leave. Hopefully you can get some counseling and if you agree to stick it out with DH for a while longer, INSIST on his going to counseling with you.