Need advice please!

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Registered: 12-09-2006
Need advice please!
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Sun, 12-10-2006 - 12:33am
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Edited 12/10/2006 5:11 pm ET by oginao
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Registered: 01-03-2004
Sun, 12-10-2006 - 10:17am

Oginao,


You might not like what I have to say, but keep reading.


First, don't have a drink with anyone again. I don't care who they are it's obvious if you "blacked out" and can't remember where you were or what happened you have a problem with alcohol. So do yourself and your children a huge favor and don't touch the stuff.


Second, if this guy was "such a loser" why on Earth were you out with him in the first place? Were you that desparate for company? Or is there more to this picture than you're letting on? Do you actually like this guy? Regardless, get a hobby. Take ceramics or join a book club so you can find others to talk with and socialize. It's obvious you don't have a good radar for people. So stay away from this guy!


Third, stay away from your husband's family. If they live 1,200 miles away then good! Keep it that way! As far as the wedding next spring goes, let your husband go and leave it at that, especially if money is an issue. You'll find it much easier to send you good wishes and avoid a situation with which you obviously find extremely likely to be negative. So don't go!


Finally, you would do yourself a huge favor by finding employment now. Even something part-time will help with the family finances and give you another outlet for friendship and indepedence. Time to be an adult. Your husband can't do it all for you.


Good luck,