Step FIL

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Step FIL
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Wed, 12-20-2006 - 11:22am
My Step FIL is a genius. He's very intellegent and knows a lot of stuff. However he is a know it all, even if he doesn't know what hes talking about. Example - I work in a real estate office and so I have learned a few things. My DH and I have talked about buying a house (we've been married 2 yrs in 3/07) but have chose to wait to get at least 5% down on a house and a little extra in savings in case anything happens. Well we were talking about it a MIL and Step FIL's house and he started in that banks just tell you that you need 5% down but you don't really and that i didn't know what i was talking about. WE SELL HOUSES and we also deal with mortgage brokers. We help people w/ bad credit repair credit so they can get a better interest rate....anyways so i know that we need money down especially if we want a good interest rate. Well I was still wrong he knew what he was talking about and I didn't. So finally I threw up my hands and said FINE I want 5% down and walked away. WHAT CAN I DO? I get tired of him..no one in the family can stand him. MIL and SFIL live 4 hrs aways so we see them about every 3 months for a weekend. But by the end of the weekend i am ready to scream at him. And he also treats MIL like dirt. I love my MIL she is so sweet and even though DH is a mommas boy she understands where to put her two cents and where not to. Well is there anything we can do about SFIL. My DH gets so mad by the way he treats her. He doen't hit her or yell at her but I think he is emotionally abusive. Her family lives in WV and she lives in MI and she rarely sees them b/c he doesn't want to drive down. However he does go see his family once a month. MIL also can drive (she has dizzy spells and has fallen and broken her arm before)so she is stuck at home.
anyways HELP
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Registered: 03-09-2006
In reply to: mrsskittles
Wed, 12-20-2006 - 5:46pm

Being in real estate yourself,

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Registered: 03-19-2003
In reply to: mrsskittles
Wed, 12-20-2006 - 8:21pm

Hi Mrsskittles, welcome!

The next time your SFIL tells you about how he is right about something, you could say something like "is that right?" in a monotone voice or say "oh really?" and let him talk. Everytime he says something where he knows everything, just keep saying that. Eventually, he'll get it .

As for having to put money down to get a good interest rate, that is bull. There are VA loans out there where no $$ is put down and you can still get a decent interest rate.

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