Ahhh my future sister in law smoke....

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Registered: 12-20-2006
Ahhh my future sister in law smoke....
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Wed, 12-20-2006 - 10:52pm
My future sister in law smoked my "recovering addict" fiance out (on pot)!!!! The one time I wasn't there hanging out she just had to do something she know I hate!!!! He has made such progress in his life and she got him wanting it again. I hate her now!!! Oh and we are having a double wedding in 4 weeks! Bitch.
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Thu, 12-21-2006 - 6:37am
How can anyone "make" someone else want something. He should have left when she lit up. Sounds like you have more problems than an inconsiderate sister of your fiance.
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Registered: 11-17-2006
Thu, 12-21-2006 - 11:39am

Hi mindala.

I do have to agree with mom2danjam here. Unless she forcibly kept your fiance there, he *chose* to be there. And this sister will be in your lives after the wedding, too. Will your fiance "let" her "make" him smoke for the rest of his life? And can you live with that?

Is this a deal breaker for you? Are you willing to marry a pothead? Or only a *former* pothead?

Your half of the wedding can be postponed, it's not too late to do so right up to the "I do" part. Though it's best to decide before that point if at all possible.

The only important thing is you, your fiance, and your relationship with each other. The rest of the wedding stuff is show. So if you need to wait a bit, don't let anyone guilt you into going through with it for any reason other than you feel ready to marry this man.

I do wish you the very best, however it turns out.

ilve2read

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Registered: 12-20-2006
Thu, 12-21-2006 - 5:45pm
Thanks for your input. He did choose to do this on his own, and trust me I am so upset with him. I am just mad at her for tempting him.
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Thu, 12-21-2006 - 8:58pm

Hi. You probably know this already,but marrying an addict is never a good idea. If you truly love him, postpone your wedding until he can get some counseling.


My husband is an alcoholic, sober four months now. His brother is the pot addict. His poor mind is so bad now from the drug that he is paranoid and dangerous. If I had known this before hand, my future may have been different.


GL


Liz

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Fri, 12-22-2006 - 1:37am
Thank you for your good advice. I will think about this.
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Sat, 12-23-2006 - 4:03pm

Hi Mindala1212, welcome!

I don't understand how your FSIL could "make" your fiance smoke pot. Did she force it on him? Did she threaten him? Everyone has a choice. They do not have to do something just because someone else does something or thinks that they should do the same thing as well. It sounds like your fiance needs help in staying away from drugs. Maybe Narcotics Anonymous could help him stay away from drugs.

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Mon, 01-01-2007 - 2:29pm
Right on. leila