How to get married w/ hostile in-laws?

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-01-2007
How to get married w/ hostile in-laws?
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Mon, 01-01-2007 - 10:34am
We are getting married this year. His family (all but his brother) do not want him to. They are worried about their inheritence and they do not like to share him.
I think that we should just Elope.
He thinks that we are just running away from them if we do.
I don't want negativity on my weddding day, and there WILL be!
Help?
Also, I have family that would love to join us, but I can't invite them and not his angry, selfish pack
Thanks
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Registered: 06-22-2006
Mon, 01-01-2007 - 11:21am

Hi Patsy,

This day belongs to you and your new husband. It should be a happy day, filled with love and congratulations and never with hostility. Just because his parents are "family," does not give them the right to show up act hostile, rude and mean. My advice is do not invite them and let them know why. If they cannot be happy for the love that their son has found, then they should not be welcome at the wedding ceremony or reception. If you both explain this to them (and perhaps your fiance should take the lead in this), maybe they will have a change of heart and you can get to the root of the problem. If not, forget them.

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Registered: 03-19-2003
Mon, 01-01-2007 - 5:02pm

Patsy2007, welcome!

His family is all about $$$? At least you know that going into the situation.

If you want to elope, then you should. I don't view it as running away. I look at it as having the day that you want without certain people interfering with your happiness on your special day. I think it is healthy boundaries and not running away.

What would your fiance rather have his family at a wedding who are going to interfere and make comments?

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