SIL's family of 5 to stay with us?!?
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| Tue, 01-09-2007 - 12:16pm |
I need some advice... my husband and I recently moved into a new condo. We live in a big city, so we don't have much space. The condo is 3 bdrm, 2 baths... but it's a very small space. One of bdrms is an office, and the other is a guest room which ONLY fits a full bed. We've had people stay over before... his parents came once, and a few friends one wknd.
But recently, he asked me if it would be ok if his sister's family come stay for 2 nights this wknd. His sister's family consists of 3 children under the age of 6 yrs old, plus 2 adults!! That would be 7 people staying total. So I told him I didn't feel comfortable with this... and of course, we got into an argument about it. Later on, after talking with friends, I thought maybe a good idea would be that the family take our condo, and my hubby and I go to a hotel. I mention this idea to him and he didn't like it... he says if he mentions that idea to his sister that she won't want to stay here. Anyway, we are talking about it last night, and he says to me, fine, they'll just stay at my uncle's house (he lives in the area). So now I feel completely guilty and horrible about this. Plus, my hubby told his sister that this is how I was feeling... so I'm definitely looked at as the bad guy.
Is it wrong for me too think that it's going to be way too crowded, and to not allow this?
Any thoughts would appreciated... thanks!

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I think that what you did was unnecessary, and frankly it's things like this that sour relationships with in-laws and give them ammunition against you. Sorry.. I am being frank, please dont mind. Building relationships and maintaining them take work from BOTH sides and that means putting up with things we dont like, sometimes. My philosophy on these things is to pick my battles. It has worked very well for me and that's the advice I give to people.
I agree with the PP's.
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Are you sure "any" thoughts would be appreciated? Cause I think you were unreasonable, unloving, and I think you owe your husband an appology. It is for two stinkin' little nights. You can't be gracious and loving towards your husband for two little nights? So what if you're uncomfortable, since when does comfort level dictate whether we are gracious and loving? How many times does he do things he isn't exactly comfortable doing just because he loves you and you asked him to? It's not like he was asking they move in for months, or even weeks. It is two nights during the WEEKEND, when it won't be disruptive and you can sleep in.
There is more to the story I'm sure. Tales of their wickedness and how wretched they are to you. But here, from what you're bringing forward in your post as the things worth mentioning, you come across to them as the "bad guy" because.....well, you're not being the good guy
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