MIL made wedding album and didnt tell us

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Registered: 09-29-2006
MIL made wedding album and didnt tell us
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Fri, 01-19-2007 - 3:44pm
I just found out my MIL made an album with our wedding pictures for my DH's grandparents/ We had started making an album for them and were going to give it to them as a gift. She made the albums for them on the computer from some website and didnt tell us she was. His grandmother told me today how happy she was becuase MIL made this albumn and she cant wait for it to come in so she can see it I didnt know what to say! I know I may be making a big deal out of it, but I just feel like it is our wedding pictures and we should be the ones to give them to people and if she is planning on it it would be nice if she checked with us 1st to make sure we wernt. She did something simular at Christmas (Ok dont laugh at this!!!) We dressed our puppy up and took a pic of him and was going to send it in cards just to the grandparents and one other family friend who loves dogs and MIL sent an email of the picture out didnt say anything and I found out again from grandmother that she saw this picture! I learned from that to wait to give MIL pictures until we are ready to give them to everyone haha. What would you say to her about this?
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Registered: 12-08-2004
Fri, 01-19-2007 - 4:28pm
Nothing. It's not a big deal and you learned what you had to, from it. So I'd move on.
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Registered: 05-05-2003
Fri, 01-19-2007 - 9:37pm
I know this is really annoying and frustrating, but you may have bigger fish you need to fry down the road. I'd let it go. If you give the album now, MIL might take it as a challenge. Save your battles for something else that I'm sure will send you straight up the wall. lol!!
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Registered: 03-19-2003
Sat, 01-20-2007 - 8:09pm

Hi Whatodo01, welcome!

I agree with the others. I'm sure that there will be bigger issues down the road to confront your MIL about. If it makes her feel good to give out the pics, then let her. Maybe she is really proud of you and your DH, so this is her way of showing it.








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Registered: 08-05-2003
Mon, 01-22-2007 - 4:44am
If this is your biggest challenge with mil count your blessings. Now if she had say given everyone albums including everyone but you in them then ya I would be a little ticked. There is nothing wrong with giving the grandparents the albumes you were working on. Im sure you have pictures that MIL doesnt or that she didnt include. Do something different. And since you said it was an oline ordered album, it prob wont be nearly the same as something you would create yourself. Something that can be very personalized. Look for a wonderfull album and put personal touches specific to the grandparents and generational photos. Think of it this way unless mil knew you were doing this big ole album project and purposely tried to upstage you it most likely just means she likes you, and is proud her son married a wonderful woman.