There is hope! DH has seen the light!

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There is hope! DH has seen the light!
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Fri, 01-19-2007 - 5:05pm

My MIL is a stealth, sneaky, rotten woman. She spits hate a DH and BIL, SIL all the time. When I first met her, I bought her story that SIL was evil to her. Then she started lying to DH (then DF) about ME! The heat really turned up when we started planning our wedding. MIL and many of his friends live in California. (We live in New England, thank god!) We decided to get married on Columbus Day Weekend. I didn't know that that day isn't a holiday in Cali. She went mental saying I was slighting her and her guests by picking that weekend. When she came for my bridal shower she almost behaved. One night DH went to bed early and I chatted with her about the rehersal dinner- it turned into a screaming match that included accusations against me and my mother. (She hasn't dealt with an angry little Irish girl before, I didn't back down.) After her visit, invitations went out. She supplied my mother with a list of her guests. One day on the phone with DH she accused me and my mother of leaving her guests out. Someone had not recieved an invitation. DH noted the name and asked my Mom. Well that evil snake had left those people off her list. He demanded that she apologize to me and my Mom (it never happened.)

Fast forward to our wedding week. She arrived on Wednesday (we were getting married on Sunday). I worked until Thursday. She called me on Thursday and bitched me out that she was sitting in her hotel room doing nothing- yeah, not my problem lady. She was 45 minutes late to the rehersal and an hour late to the rehersal dinner. She was talking smack about me in the church and when the procession was delayed for a minute (I was waiting in a van outside) she said- loud enough for EVERYONE to hear- "Has she changed her mind?" She was so drunk at my reception that she knocked over a table and hit on my father's friends. She yelled at my friends- who were doing nothing wrong.

The good news- DH knows her evil ways now. Over the wedding week he talked to BIL and SIL and they're now like our new best friends. (My SIL says we're "sisters in horror.") He now sees the filters she sees the world through and the lies she tells. So, ladies, there is hope. I hope your DH and DF see the light someday as mine FINALLY has!

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Registered: 01-15-2007
Fri, 01-19-2007 - 5:47pm
Mine never did but I moved on to a better man and I know realize that we are better friends then being together !

 

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Sat, 01-20-2007 - 4:30pm
Dh finally saw the light after 7 years, and us moving away. Of course by then the damage had been done.

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Sat, 01-20-2007 - 8:04pm
That is awesome that your DH sees the light!!! Lots of DHs don't but yours has!! I hope it stays that way and that he continues to realize how evil his mother is. Hope you have continued peace in your life without your MIL in your life.







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