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Literally married the family
| Thu, 01-25-2007 - 4:59pm |
So we recently got married (about 4 months ago) just about then is when my MIL decided to move in with us....just because, no asking just moved it. Husband agreed once we came back from our honeymoon we would sit down with her and ask her what her plans were. HE also promised to stand up for me and make me his priority. (Due note she is living in a one 1/2 bdroom house with her two kids....OMG.) It has been like 3 months and my loving husband has not done a damn thing. He hasn't talked to her or laid out any rules. She has taken over my house i can't even make a phone call in my house because my SIL uses the phone 24/7 and boy is she sarcastic. NOW i tell my husband we need to talk and all he does is sending me to church mind you i do go to church and believe me i have been praying. He is saying that there are more important things to worry about that about his mother living with us. IS is wrong if i want my husband to stand up give me my place in my house?

"He is saying that there are more important things to worry about that about his mother living with us."
Really? Like what?
No you are not wrong for asking your husband to have his mother move out. You have put up with it for a long time and you are entitled to begin your married life without the in-laws. Talk to your husband again, calmly but firmly and tell him that she has to go. Keep us posted on what he says. Good luck.
I too don't see what could possibly be more important....?
Get the classifieds and start looking for another place and tell him you are moving out.
I think you need to have a talk with your husband because I don't believe for one second that she up and moved in with out telling him about it first.
Good luck 2 u.
You know yourself best, junckfun. Are you the woman to pack his mother's bag and throw it on the porch? Or are you the woman to realize that you don't have a marriage, and move out yourself?
You see, he looked you straight in the eye and lied to you. He doesn't give a fig if you are unhappy with his mother there. He has married you under false-pretenses. You don't know if one single thing that he has ever said to you has been true!
Hi Junckfun, welcome!
Your husband has obviously made his choice about who he feels is most important in his life and that is his mother. He married you, but to him, it looks like you are 2nd best to his mother. Is that the kind of marriage you want? After only 4 months of marriage, he is already putting someone else first?!?
I think you need to talk to him again and tell him either he talks to her or you do. Let him know that if you do, you are telling her that she has a week to move out and that's that. Also, tell him that if she doesn't move out by X date, you are going to look for your own place to live (if that is what you want to do). Of course, if you make that threat, you have to stick to it, otherwise, he will know that you are making empty threats and won't take you seriously when you make a threat again.
Your husband should be standing up for you in your house, which is why if he doesn't, you should stand up for yourself in your house and tell MIL that she needs to move out.
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