FMIL and upcoming wedding
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| Mon, 01-29-2007 - 1:39pm |
Hello. I dont know if you remember me from a while back. I posted a message asking if you ever saw signs during your dating to clue you in on the type of person MIL is.
Well, anyway Im back, and the wedding plans are underway. And I am curious about what your experiences were with the MIL during the wedding planning.
Mine has been acting very distant from my fiance. And I extended an olive leaf (a big stretch for me) and invited her to go to the bridal bizaar with us, and she flaked. This is after she had a months advance notice.
Finally, I do have another concern: the rehearsal dinner. For our Christmas present, she offered to "do" the rehearsal dinner for us. But she is not communicating with me at all. And she would be planning it from out of town. Do you think this is a problem? Do you think I should try to take over that part of the wedding planning, even though (traditionally) the groom's family is supposed to handle it?
I'm marrying her only child in the world. And although he's always been a mama's boy, he has (during the past year) really shown that he is on my team. I don't think she likes this at all. She tells him that he is becoming a "mean" person (like his dad, her ex-husband). And these things really hurt him.
Should I just accept the fact that it is difficult for a woman to see her son get married? I am so confused. She always says how much she likes me (despite the stories I told you in that message a while back).
Any advice? What has your experience been?

"she offered to "do" the rehearsal dinner for us. But she is not communicating with me at all. And she would be planning it from out of town... Do you think I should try to take over"
I don't think you should try to "take over." She has given you a Christmas gift. Let her handle it. If she has any questions, she will ask you. There IS information that you need to give to her, like how many will be attending. Give it to her and let her know that you would be happy to help in any way that she needs. Let her know what day you are sending the wedding invitations, and ask her if she would lilke you to insert something for the people of the wedding party about where/when the rehersal dinner will be.