Boyfriend's family excludes me!
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| Mon, 01-29-2007 - 2:02pm |
Hey all,
I've been with my boyfriend for 18 months and we see each other every day but I'm rarely invited to do anything with his family. They are very nice to me when they see me in person but I rarely get included in anything - I've had dinner with them once!
He shares his birthday with his mother and last year I wasn't invited to his birthday dinner! When I spoke to him about it he said that it was her birthday too and she just wanted it to be family! She's already told him that if we ever have children that they won't be brought up in my faith (she doesn't see why I should win!)
He's involved in every part of my life and it really upsets me that I'm not involved in his. He says that his mum does like me but its just the way his family are but it annoys me that he won't stand up to her!
His brother's girlfriend gets treated the same way!
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Midgie_mo

That would be annoying, from a girlfriend's standpoint. In your shoes, what I would need to know is whether that will change if you should marry. And it's not his mom who must answer that question, it is your BF. You aren't legally "family," and that may be part of the obstacle. But perhaps only part?
I think that the thing you should want re-assurance on is that if you ever did become "family" that your husband would stand firmly by your side anytime there is a family event.