Kinda OT???

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Registered: 01-22-2007
Kinda OT???
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Sat, 02-03-2007 - 11:18pm
My DH and I went to FIL's retirement party today we have a 5yr old and a 18 month old. We took a picture of our girls outside and made into a xmas card this past xmas(06) and sent to everyone in the family.
Well at the end of FIL's party MIL and FIL were walking us out when MIL said, "The cards you made are pretty". DH and I had no idea what she was talking about and MIL said "These cards", it was a pack of three note card sets kinda like post it notes but without the sticky stuff with our girls xmas picture scanned on every page. DH and I had no idea who made these as a gift for our FIL. Then MIL says, "Oh you didn't make them Oh I guess it was FIL's brother and his wife". Now how would MIL know that they made them if she assumed it was us.
DH and I were actually flabbergasted that someone would scan our girls picture and turn it into a gift for FIL without even asking us. We really didn't know what to say honestly we were weirded out by it and in-laws gave us a tab of cards to take home and we still couldn't respond.
I know family shares pictures and all but this really bothered us. The brother and his wife had already left so we were unable to question it.
How should we handle this? Would this be something that we'd need to address? And has this ever happened to anyone here?
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Registered: 01-22-2004
In reply to: camomom2
Sun, 02-04-2007 - 9:23am
This wouldn't be a big deal in my family. We often take pictues of each other and those of us who are better at editing them on the computer and printing them often put them in frames and give them as gifts to other family members. No weirdness is meant by it. I would be a little peeved if I felt it wasn't a good picture, but I doubt that any malice was intended. Someone probably just thought they were being nice.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: camomom2
Wed, 02-07-2007 - 1:06pm

Unless you have already stopped thinking about this, and decided to let it go... I think that it's not enough for you to settle for saying you felt "weirded out."

If you are still thinking aobut this, then perhaps you have truly identified the nature of your feelings? What is it that bothered you, really? It could be that you felt your privacy was invaded - but you and your husband made the photo family property when you sent it to everyone for Christmas. So no invasion of privacy. Or maybe you were a little jealous that the gift your FIL really loved utilized some of "your work" but you didn't get the credit? If that were the problem, then you probably know you should just let it go.