INTRO...2 sets of in laws (dh parents)

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INTRO...2 sets of in laws (dh parents)
Mon, 02-12-2007 - 9:38pm

Well, i am so glad to find this board but im not sure how short this will be...i am gonna guess its going to be super long! First off, i have 2 sets of in laws..dh's parents got divorced and remarried bad for me that both sets are just horrific!

My mother in law in a nutshell is that she is a complete control freak. She can NOT deal with not being in control of everything (even things like picking your curtains in your house and the clothes that you wear). She also believes that she knows EVERYTHING.(she will tell you that doctors are wrong if they dont give you the diagnoses she thinks you have). My step father in law isnt bad at all.

My step Mother in law-WOW i dont know how i am going to be able to describe her. She acts like a child, no joke. She has to be in the middle of everything single thing that goes on or she gets really pouty. She plays with childrens toys and takes them away from kids so she can play with them. She has to get her way everytime or else there is hell to pay.

My father in law allows this behavor to go on with out mentioning a thing to her. If she wants him to jump 2 feet off the ground right now he'll do it just cause she asked. he'll adhear to everything she wants, give her all the attention but turn around and chew your head off if there is something simliar going on that you need help with. If you dont give her what she wants he'll get really upset at you.

That being said heres some past backround...with the father in law and step mother in law, we had things get so bad between them when my daughter was born (1st born) they came to her birth though not invited tons of bad things happened there. When she was just a newborn they complained all the time that they were upset my daughter would sleep whenever they were around!!! She even went as far as writing us a long letter and sending it to us (we lived three hours away) telling us how we dont allow her to change diapers and that she thought i needed to hug her (my step mother in law) more often and give her kisses when i leave. She demanded that we come up with a nickname that our chilren call her. And my father in law backed this all up so my dh and i desided that we needed to cut off from them. That if they were not going to respect our wishes as parents and complain about things out of our hands then we didnt need them in our kids lives. Well that was 4 years ago. Now we talk to them again and things are almost as nearly bad as they were then. Problem being is my dh doesnt see it this time! So of course you can imagine this is causing a lot of marriage problems because he is allowing these things to go on. We are moving back to our home town (we live many states away now!) after our baby is born so i know things will be horrific again!

My mother in law , when i first found out i was pregnant we were up visiting her (she lives a little over an hour away) i got extremly sick and she thought i needed to go to the hosptal after a long time in pain that got worse i went. we all thought i was having a miscarriage, turned out i have colitis and she informed me when we got home that she thought the doctors were wrong. (colitis is a real bad stomach diesese and very painful) she told me i needed to get up and walk around (while i was still in pain and on narcotics for the pain) said i needed to get up and watch the kids so dh could get some sleep!!!

We went up to visit her last month and she called me and told me exactly what i needed to pack my children for the visit!!!!!!! i didnt pack a single thing she said to pack. Ive started making comments back to her now if they are really making me mad. One morning while she was here i said "i didnt sleep well at all last night" she said to dh "yea right,was she sleeping when you went to bed" i looked at her and said "i dont lie!" and she shut up..these are just SOME things i deal with all of them.

i could go on and on but i have gotten to long. the worse part is .....my dh doesnt see any of this. He aims to please them first before the children or i, so it gets really hard sometimes! Im sure ill be visiting this board A LOT!

Megan
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