Wanting Opinions

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Registered: 04-21-2003
Wanting Opinions
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Tue, 02-13-2007 - 9:37am
DH lost his job a while back and we were in a bind. MIL took out a loan on her car to help us get some stuff paid. Right when the check was cut, they cashed it and DH handed her $1100.00 of it. We went to visit her the next weekend and she had a plumbing issue. The plumber came out, did a poor job, and she called him back out a few days later and he charged her again. She calls us, who she knows are doing horribly asking my DH to pay her plumbing bill of $1000.00. So now out of the $8000.00, we've handed her 2100.00 and none of it went to the loan payback. She paid a couple of months worth of it, but when we received our tax return, we paid her back. So now we are paying off the 5900 we actually borrowed PLUS the 2100 we handed her that she should have sent on in or paid back herself since we didn't actually use it, she did. DH argues that we need to pay it all back because she was nice enough to do this for us...okay I understand this and yes, I am grateful, but if she took part of the loan money then shouldn't she pay it back?

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Registered: 11-17-2006
In reply to: lissa91
Tue, 02-13-2007 - 9:58am

Hi lissa. Of course I agree with you, she should pay back the part that she benefitted from.

However, if your husband flat out will not tell *her* that, then it doesn't matter what any of us think. Is it worth risking your relationship over?

Can you look at that as additional interest on the loan? The cost of doing business with his mother? An expensive life lesson about trusting *her*? :o)

I don't know how helpful my opinion is, but there it is.

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Registered: 04-21-2003
In reply to: lissa91
Tue, 02-13-2007 - 2:25pm
The worst of it is that when she is in a bind she calls us crying. She knows we are having a hard time and that loan payment has put us more in a bind. I am not sure why she did it...unless DH asked her to, because let's face it...she wouldn't offer to help us on her own...that's for sure. Most of my DH's family is wealthy. His mother is not, but she is better off than she makes out. She will not call me when she has a problem, but will call DH because she knows how soft-hearted he is and he will help. Even if it means we starve. We have had to be late on bills because of her. I'm tired of the whining and she is sensing now that she and I are growing apart. Well...I wonder why...

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