Forgotten Anniversery........

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Registered: 12-21-2006
Forgotten Anniversery........
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Wed, 02-14-2007 - 2:48am
Our Anniversery was Monday and not a word
mentioned about it from my husband. So is
it normal for the husbands to start for-
getting after 4 yrs or could it be that
we have so many problems and the inlaws
don't help much. I am sure they would
prolli think it would be funny that my
husband forgot! I guess he talked to
his mom a few days ago and I guess she
admited that it would be almost impossible
for me to get a job but who knows my H
could just be saying that so I will shut
up about it.

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Registered: 03-01-2006
Wed, 02-14-2007 - 7:16am

I watched a friend of mine set her boyfriend up to fail constantly.

Madalot

When I insist that I am 'right," I slam the door of my mind.  I remain locked in past

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Registered: 01-13-2007
Wed, 02-14-2007 - 9:23am

I have to laugh b/c my husband rarely remembers our anniversary or my bday - heck he can't rememeber his own siblings Bdays and sometimes not even our daughters'. I honestly think it is a guy thing at times. My brother has to be reminded by atleast 2 of us for important dates like Bday's and such.

What I have done is go through his planner and put in the dates - anniversary, bdays, special things and it helps. I also remind him like the other poster said "Hey I got a sitter for next Friday, so what do you want to do for our Anniversary?". I also try to remember that it is not what he does or doesn't do on a "special date" but what he does everyday or a majority of days.

You might want to say - "Hey this week has been crazy, how about this weekend we go out and celebrate Valentines & Our Anniversary without all the craziness?"

That way you are reminding him without blaming him.

Frances


Proud Wife & SAHM

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Registered: 03-01-2006
Wed, 02-14-2007 - 9:34am

I also try to remember that it is not what he does or doesn't do on a "special date" but what he does everyday or a majority of days.


Yes, this is so true.

Madalot

When I insist that I am 'right," I slam the door of my mind.  I remain locked in past

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-21-2006
Wed, 02-14-2007 - 1:03pm
Well,I think my husband was to busy
chatting it up online sunday with
a 25 year old. I seen the email
from her that said she found his
emial address on a site he posted
it on! This is the first time he
forgot it!
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-01-2006
Wed, 02-14-2007 - 2:08pm
Well, it sounds like you've got more serious issues going on than simply a forgotten anniversary.

Madalot

When I insist that I am 'right," I slam the door of my mind.  I remain locked in past

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Registered: 12-21-2006
Wed, 02-14-2007 - 4:45pm
I really try my best to ignore all
the things he does on the net. Some-
times it really hurts my feelings and
makes me very mad. We have barrowed
so much money from his parents yet he
can spend money on a stupid game in-
stead of paying them some money. Then
they get angry with me becuz I don't
have a job. The last 3 jobs I have had
I have lost due to husband having to
travel out of town,sick kids then I
get sick,and snow days. You can only
call in so many times befor they tell
you thanks but don't bother coming
back. The IL's think I don't want to
work and think I am lazy but I would
love to have a job and keep a job. I
have even told a manger once I'd work
there for free if I could cuz I was
so bored. Well,of course the guy looked
at me like I was out of my mind. I have
even thought about volenteering at this
church in my town they have a supper night
for people that need it.
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Registered: 03-09-2006
Wed, 02-14-2007 - 6:57pm

He "forgot" your anniversary??


How could he forget when you showed up at his work to have lunch with him? How did he forget when he read the card you slipped into his coat pocket? How could he forget when he came home and saw the beautiful flowers you got him sitting on the table? How did he forget when he smelled the yummy dinner you made for him, or when you went to the resteraunt you made reservations for? How could he forget when he saw you in a hot dress with your hair all done? How did he forget when you snuggled up to him and said "happy anniversary honey, I love you"? How could he forget the mind blowing orgasms you gave each other in the celebratory love-making? How did he "forget" when you did all that??


Oh wait. You didn't do all that?!? What did you do that he could miss and "forget"?

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Registered: 12-21-2006
Wed, 02-14-2007 - 7:02pm

I didn't post this to get a lecture about what
I may have or haven't done. I have done myself
all up befor and he has barley noticed. Thanks
for making me feel worse then I already did. BTW,
I make him whatever he wants when he gets home
from work every night. I don't make anything for
him ahead of time becuz I never know when he will
be home and I don't want it to be cold and yucky.

Edited 2/14/2007 7:07 pm ET by broken07




Edited 2/14/2007 7:09 pm ET by broken07
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Registered: 03-19-2003
Wed, 02-14-2007 - 10:31pm
If your husband is chatting with a 25 year old on the internet, you have bigger problems than a forgotten anniversary. Have you confronted him about his behavior on the internet?







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Registered: 06-22-2006
Thu, 02-15-2007 - 7:10am

Hi,

I have read a few of your posts, and am wondering why you are staying with your husband when it seems like you are doing all the giving and he is doing all the taking? Whats in it for you?

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