boyfriends aunts sister wants my bf
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boyfriends aunts sister wants my bf
| Mon, 02-19-2007 - 3:43pm |
My boyfriend's aunt by marriage has a sister that is always at all the family activities. Her and my boyfriend have had a short 2 week relationship months prior to me and him ever meeting. She goes as far as kissing his neck and grabbin his butt in front of me. I don't know how to handle the situation he says he has nothing for her but doenst know how to get away from her. May i also add that hes 19 and shes 30 something with 2 elementary aged children. what am i supposed to do?

Deel,
Your boyfriend needs to address this situation (it's his butt she's grabbing and his space she's violating.)
It will take guts, but the next time he sees this woman he needs to be VERY CLEAR that he won't accept her treatment of him. That means putting a stop to any physical touching and verbally backing it up.
When she approaches him he needs to physically stop her from touching him. That means grabbing her hand, pushing her away, and physically stepping back from her. This should be accompanied by a LOUD and FIRM statement like "I don't want you to touch me. LEAVE ME ALONE!" Repeat as necessary.
Everyone who sees this action can see she's the fool and he doesn't want her attention. If possible, avoid situations where you will be in contact with her, but the better tact is to confront and resolve as I note above. This woman has no right to touch your boyfriend, especially in a sexual way, and she needs to be told to stop. (As I said, repeat as necessary until she gets the message.)
Good luck.
I know that if someone was grabbing me, I would tell them to stop immediately. He can stop her if he wanted to. I have to wonder if the feeling is still a bit mutual?
Perhaps the time has come for the family to let her know that if she cannot act like an adult woman with children, that perhaps she should not come back. I sure hope her kids are not seeing their mother act like a hormonal teenager.
her to keep her hands to her self.
If he won't correct this behavior, perhaps you should try this.
Next time she does it, look her straight in the eye and say:
"You know, you are really ruining BF's sex life."
When she asks why or how, tell her, while looking HIM straight in the eye:
"Because every time you act in this inappropriate manner, it disgusts me so much, I don't want him to touch me for at least a month."