He says I have an anger problem
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He says I have an anger problem
| Tue, 02-24-2004 - 5:45pm |
Well I just wanted to say that my ex gave me HIV, I was diagnosed in November 12. He physically beat me Nov 21. I called the police and had him arrested. When he came out he was trying to contact me through his family even though I have a protection order. Well dumb little me started talking to him again. And as I have he is just mean, selfish and thinks of himself. I am a Christian woman, I have just started attending church and I am establishing a relationship with the Lord. He came out of jail saying he is Christian, that is fine. I wasn't practicing nor trying to tell him what to do. One thing he was right about is that life is empty without the Lord, but he used the Bible in his own termonolgy saying that I had to submit myself to him, leave my parents (not talking to them or seeing them) I had to obey him when he talks, Now I understand it does say these things in the bible, but what about equality. He doesn't see himself doing the same. Submit means no friends no family just him and my son. If it was up to him I would be in the house 24/7 with him and my son. I mean I am 25 and so hurt. I honestly just became a Christian and opened my heart this Sunday and I say it proudly because I never said it before because I didn't feel ready. What do you all think of this? He would say things to me like I don't like your hair color or I don't like your clothes today. It really hurt me, because even if I thought I looked nice. He would just drag me down. I started running out on him when he would say these kinds of things. I didn't want to sit there and argue. Just like he asked me to go to lunch, he had my car that day so he picked me up 15 mintues late and asked me if I wanted to go to this little Spanish rest. When I said yes, he said you can eat but I won't ILL. Well I felt bad and asked him just to drop me back off at work. I asked myself, why would he ask me to go somewhere even if he didn't like it. I wanted to enjoy lunch together, not see him staring at me. He said because of my reactions, I have an anger problem? w/b

What AzMomma told you is right.
Just know this -- he'll have to live with what he did to you for the rest of his life and, eventually, it's going to come home to roost. He'll figure it all out in time -- don't worry. And when he does, he's going to hate himself for it, *almost* as much as all of us on this board hate him right now for doing this to you. Because, by then, you'll be long gone and he'll realize what he had and what he lost. More importantly, he'll realize *how* he lost you, and he'll come to understand that it was *his* fault, NOT yours.
BTW, I'm 25 too, and I can only imagine the amount of courage and inner strength you have to be dealing with this as well as you are. Please keep posting and come here whenever you need to -- we will always do whatever we can to help and support you.
Love & Hugs,
Emm
So, after everything he's done to you, you're supposed to just sit there and take it?
CL-Blueliner4
Here's the link to JTHomer's post:
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