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| Tue, 02-24-2004 - 6:23pm |
hes stayed home the last couple days (he can work from home if he wants sometimes), i know its because he thinks i will leave. i'm packed and ready and he has no idea, but he hid my keys and i wanted to find them. i looked in his dressers and i found a gun! i didn't think he had one. He knows how much they scare me, i dont know for how long he's had it but that makes me so scared. i found my extra key for my vehicle but when i go the garage will open and it will probably wake him up so he'll know right away. thanks for your thoughts and prayers i'll message whenever i can to let you all know i'm fine. i'm terrified so much but i got to do this he being relentless. Thanks again -jj

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Way to go girl on making this decision - very smart. Now, stay smart. DO NOT ACT DIFFERENTLY. You may think he knows nothing, but the fact that he's staying home probably means he's got "a feeling" about something.
What's your back-up plan if things go wrong with Plan A? You must have a back-up plan that you can put into action immediately if the first plan fails for any reason. Saftey first.
In your case, because your guy is such a psycho, you should have a Plan B and a Plan C. Keep them in your head only. Keep things very, very simple. Be smart. Stay smart so you can stay alive, right?
You are way, way stronger than you think. I know you can do this.
Do whatever is necessary to stay alive. Be creative in the event of an emergency. Try very hard not to let your emotions take over. Be very calculating, very clear headed, OK?
You are doing this! Good for you!
We are all with you in spirit! You have so many angels around you sweetie - you just don't even know the half of it!
(((hugs)))
Hummer
Dear JJ,
I am so proud of your courage.
As the others have told you, you are not alone as you make this big step. All of us here are pulling for you. We are keeping you in our daily thoughts and prayers. I will not stop until I know for sure that you are safe.
May God keep you safe, dear lady.
Christine
Please post and let us know.....I'll be worried and thinking about you until then!
dharma
Another way to get out is to call the police, quickly but accuratly tell them what is going on, that you have now found a gun and you need to be taken from your home now to a safe house.
You can have a police escort to go back and get your car and things, but right now you need to be gone with as much official help as possible.
He's armed, he dangerous and it is now quite evident that he will use lethal force to keep his secret from being discovered.
If needed, e-mail someone you trust to call the police for you and have them come get you with at least two back-up officers. He's now armed and dangerous and you need to get free.
Be safe JJ
Hugs
I know you're not "supposed" to know about the gun, but believe me when I tell you this -- If you stay with him, you *will* find out about it, and not in a very nice way.
Please don't back down now . . . follow through with your plan quickly, calmly and quietly. And, above all, make SURE he doesn't know! Please post as soon as you can to let all of us know you're safe -- we'll be worrying about you, girl! Take care of you!!!
Love & ((((BIG HUGS)))),
Emm
******* If you already have a protection order, you should contact the police and inform them that you found a gun. When I had a protection order against my stbx, he was ordered to not possesses any kind of firearms while the order was in place. This is so very important, make sure it is one of your first phone calls.*******
I totally understand what you are going through right now, I snuck out of my house after grabbing my 1 1/2 yo and had the car packed. I also had to sneak away from him, I didn't have a carseat in the car, or shoes for my baby, but I didn't care - I ran. It was the only way I could do it.
Please please please be careful. Cover your tracks, don't contact him! you need to go into hiding for a little while that's why a shelter would be your best bet. It would be a safe place for you to stay while you decided on your next moves. They also have counselors there and are a wonderful resource for any assistance (legal, housing, etc.)that might be out there. The can help you figure out what you need to do to protect yourself.
I will keep you in my pryaers!
jenny
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