Going to see someone@the shelter nxt wk
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| Sat, 02-28-2004 - 12:43am |
I have felt so broken this week. Like my mom and husband finally made me snap and just give up...I have felt like going back to him this week. I havent but I am just so tired of the constant struggle here. It is almost worse to be here than to be with him. My mom had talked him into calling a counselor and he had made an appt for today(friday) and she has just been pressuring and pressuring me to go. I didnt go. I told her I didnt see the sense in it. She has told me that I left my husband for no good reason. That he didnt do anything so bad. Then she asked me if there was someone else...if I was having an affair. I am just so tired of this. I have told her and told her how it is and she refuses to see it. Keeps telling me that I need to work it out with him and that at least I need to go to one counselling session with him. I think that if he actually hit me maybe she would see this as abuse...but he hasnt and she wont.
Anyway I am hopeful that the women at the shelter can help me. The woman that I talked to said that they could help me to find a job and also there might be money available to help me get an apartment. My mom was talking to me today like I am going to be here for months and months. I dont think that she was listening to me when I said I wanted to move back up to MI and keep my son in his current school. I dont want to live here with my parents for forever. I need to be free to do what I want and as long as I live here that will not be possible.
Hugs to you all and I am now including everyone on the board in my prayers at night.
God Bless You All.
Ree

Ree, I think this is a wonderful step and I think they can offer you some help.
CL-Blueliner4
YEAAAA, Ree!!!!!
I am grinning from ear to ear. Good for you, girl. You were tempted to go back to him, but you didn't. That shows how strong you really are.
I am proud of you for calling the shelter and making an appointment. You deserve ooodles of support for what you are so courageously doing... I am so sorry for the horrid things your mom is saying. Good for
My heart goes out to you. Keep being strong. Some, many, people don't understand the dynamics of an abusive relationship. It took me a really long time to see that what I have endured (over 23 years) has always been wrong, abusive. Many times our parents suggest that we stay because that is what was right for them. In there day, divorce, separation, weren't options. As long as he wasn't hurting you physically, you stayed. It is so hard to move on, trust me I know. Stay strong. Know that what your gut is telling you is right, trust yourself - you, and only you, know what is best for you.
Keep that appointment at the shelter. Talk with them. Find people that you can talk to that support you. And try to set boundaries with your mom. Let her know that you don't want to hear her supporting HIM over you. That she may not understand, but as her daughter she should be supporting YOU! Right or wrong, she should be there for you and your choices and if her opinion is different from yours, well respect hers and she should respect yours - agree to disagree but she needs to let you live YOUR life as you choose.
Let us know how things go.
Pam