going to lawyer

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Registered: 08-05-2003
going to lawyer
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Wed, 03-03-2004 - 10:32am
Hello! i have been going to the ywca for a couple of months to get more educated on dv. i went monday and decided to talk to an advocate about a few issue i worried about if i left him. i felt a little better after talking to her. she gave me a list of lawyers to call and look into. the highly recommended one lawyer to me. so i called her and have an appointment friday. i have no clue what kind of questions to be asking? any suggestions - i want to make sure i get a good lawyer. i still question if i am even doing the right thing. for my girls i feel i am - although i know it will break my older daughters heart right now. she loves her father dearly even after all the crap he does to her. i guess i should not talk because i love him to that is why this is so difficult. i can't understand how we could love someone who repeated hurts us - more emotionally than physically. i also don't understand how he can hurt us if he loves us. i know he loves us. it makes it pretty hard to make this move - if he were only mean to us everday it would be a lot easier. i don't understand how he can be one way one minute and another the next minute. anyhow! wish me luck for friday and let me know if you have any info on finding a good lawyer - or what questions i should be asking when i go. THANK YOU ALL FOR ALL OF THE SUPPORT YOU HAVE GIVEN ME IN THE PAST!!
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Registered: 11-11-2003
Thu, 03-04-2004 - 12:45am

I actually did my divorce myself - luckily, until we got to the visitation and child support stage, stbx cooperated, mainly because it wasn't costing him anything.

Peace and hugs,

Cheryl =)

The minute you settle for less than you