Manic H and no legal protection

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Manic H and no legal protection
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Wed, 03-03-2004 - 12:37pm
Hi..I am coming here for a friend of mine.Her H is really acting crazy and weird and he keeps harassing her. The most recent incident we were at her house for her childs third b-day. Just cake, ice cream and opening presents. Her H kept making comments. Because three of us had testified against him for an order of protection he was not happy that we were there. Which Ok i can understand that but, it is your kids b-day. He made comments it looked like court that day are you going to invite the judge too. After a while he called the police on us. He said he did not want us at his house.The police come and tell her that they do not feel she is safe and she needs to go somewhere for a while. That her H is mentally not with it.

She got turned down for an order of protection because he is not getting physical.But, the Doc said that he thinks her H is bi-polar and in the manic stage now.That her H could get physical with her. Everything that he is doing seems to be leading up to a climax that I am afraid will involve her being hurt by him. But, yet the court system will not back her up she is scared for her life and what her children are witnessing and this is all OK? Why do we still only consider it abuse when it becomes physical? Why should she have to wait until something really bad happens for her to be protected..not much protection if your DEAD!!!!

The judge said to my friend I hope you have learned your lesson this is not a case for an order of protection that her and her H are spiralling out of control!!!What kind of crap is that?

This man has told people that other people think that he is Jesus, did the sign of the cross on her forehead, thinks people are following him,the phone is bugged,took all the money from the bank accounts, is banned from church because he went in there and handed out flyers saying not to donate to the church because they are a den of liars and they spend all the donations protecting homosexuals etc. When he called the cops and the third walked in he said to that cop what are you doing here. I only called for those two do you have a warrant to be in my house? Was screaming at us in front of his children to leave the house and said to me that I was a stupid s@7! for coming there after what she is trying to do to him? While his 3 yo was standing there.I could go on and on. He wakes her up in the morning by hitting the side of the foton with his leg or lifting the end of it up and dropping it back down.....called her a slob right when we were going to eat cake and ice cream in front of every one. Has threatened her because he does not want her using the lawyers.

I am just wondering if anyone has advice on how to get protection from someone who is out of control? He is very emotionally abusive to her and controlling.BUt, he just knows how to stop from doing something that will get him arrested and or get an order of protection against him.What do you do when your H is psycho and having psychotic episodes? He will not accept what the Doc told him and also she was told there is only a 30 percent chance he will take his meds and get help.He needs to mentally evaluated even his family tried to do an intervention to no avail he thinks he is just fine!

When we were in court he just walked off the stand to get a cough drop out of his pocket I mean everyone saw that he was nuts but THAT DOES NOT MATTER THEY WILL ONLY CARE WHEN SHE IS DEAD OR INJURED!!!

If anyone knows how she can get him out on an order of protection I will be forever grateful. I think that there is about 8 police reports now! But, hey he has not hit her yet so lets just hold our breaths and wait while the kids have to endure this and watch as their dad mentally abuses their mom!

I mean really what is going to happen next? She has filed for divorce and he is going to represent himself this is going to cost a fortune!

Thanks for reading my ramblings I swear the laws need to be changed!

~~````Loosenit

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Registered: 04-04-2003
Wed, 03-03-2004 - 1:02pm

Sounds like this man is Hell on wheels and needs to undergo some very serious psychotic evaluation.