He's up to his old tricks . . . AGAIN!
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| Tue, 03-09-2004 - 9:43am |
"I just needed to email you and give you an update on a few things. First I wanted you to know that I will probably only need you to feed Caesar lunch on Tuesday. I am taking some extra time off work this week to close on the house so I will be home. He is almost out of dog food also. There is enough for a day or two. But I figured you saw that last week and have one on the way anyhow. The second thing that I wanted to let you know is that I am expecting a call from the morgage company today. He is in the process of setting up the closing on the house. He figures we can have it final by the end of the week. I will bring the title to the truck along for you to sign over. The insurence is taken care of now. And lastly I didn't have time to get that box of stuff ready for you last week. I will bring it to closing also. Thank you for your cooperation through this. It has made a devestating situation a little easier to deal with, and hopefully by the end of this month we can b oth just chalk this all up to experience and move on with our lives. I hope your new life is everything you wanted it to be and I wish you the best. Good luck in whatever may come."
Now that you've read his BS, here's what's wrong with this picture:
1. Caesar (my dog) is my responsibility, and I have no problem buying dog food for him. BUT, I asked STBXH in an e-mail last Monday (3/1) if he needed more dog food. Evidently, he chose not to answer me until yesterday . . . ONE WHOLE WEEK after I asked him, and now Caesar suddenly only has another day or two's worth of food left! Well, it takes three to four days for a shipment of dog food to get here. (I order it online . . . yes, I know he's spoiled!) So, I ordered a bag yesterday, and I'll probably catch hell from him when it gets here late!
2. He wants to bring the title to his truck to closing on Thursday or Friday of this week so that I can sign the truck over to him. BUT, as I've told him *countless* times before, I absolutely *refuse* to sign the title to his truck until I have documentation from him showing that the loan in both of our names is paid off and that he has a new loan for the truck in his own name. I have asked him numerous times to provide me with this information, and he has so far failed to do so. It's like he thinks if he just ignores my request for that information, I'll just sign the title anyway. AS IF!!! I didn't just roll off the turnip truck, ya know?!?!
3. He has found some things around the house that he thinks I should have and he wants to box them up for me. He told me he'd have it all ready by last Thursday and I could just pick it up when I stopped by to take care of Caesar. Well, I stopped by and guess what -- no box! So, he wants to bring it to closing. As if it's not going to be difficult enough for me to deal with him then, he's got to complicate things by giving me my "stuff." (I have NO IDEA what this could be, as I've already removed everything I need to from the house, with the exception of Caesar, who should be moving into my boyfriend's house sometime next week.)
4. Finally, he acts like all of this was HIS idea, but I've been after him for about two months now to get this stuff taken care of! Also, we have a timeshare that is to be signed over into his name, and he needs to check with the timeshare company to figure that out. But, of course, he hasn't done so yet. So, I keep asking about it in my e-mails to him, and he keeps ignoring that issue as well. The problem is, there is a $500 per year maintenance fee on the timeshare and I *do not* want to be held responsible for it! So, he needs to get the timeshare out of my name. (It's currently titled jointly.)
I just don't even know what to do with him anymore. He's trying to farm all of this out as long as possible, and there's not a damn thing I can do to stop him. He's trying to keep as much control over the situation as possible. (Or at least the *appearance* of control!) What he doesn't know is, I've saved every single e-mail from him to me and vice versa, so I've got all of this documented. Every time a request of mine has been ignored by him, I can prove it. You see, our Separation Agreement states that all of this is to be finalized by March 31. So, if it doesn't get finalized by that time, it's not my fault! And I can prove it!
But, I'm really not looking forward to having to deal with him at closing on the house, which is to take place on Thursday or Friday of this week. I just know he's going to be all sulky and "poor me, my wife left me." Pretty much par for the course with this a$$hole. Sorry, just needed to vent a little. (OK, maybe a lot!)
Love,
Emm

Okay, how bad is this when I can't even come up with a plan B?
CL-Blueliner4