ONE OF YOU

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Registered: 03-10-2004
ONE OF YOU
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Wed, 03-10-2004 - 10:28pm
i was one of those who couldnt understand why women put up with men in abusive relationships so here i was doing it.i began to make excuses why there always seem to be more bad days than good and started blaming myself more and more for it.i finally decided to leave and filed for divorce and that really let me see the light.being called all kinds of names was just for starters.pretty soon it was screaming,smashing things and being spit on,hit,threatened with being killed or having to see that person commit suicide.i didnt want the police involved because i didnt want anyone to know my business and i cared still because i knew physically he was ill and hurting due to health reasons but finally a friend stepped in and called someone.i finally have him moved out of the house and thank god i made the decision even though i was beginning to wonder if mentally and physically i was going to survive.i regret with all my heart now that i didnt have the open mindedness that i do now that makes me understand why women put up with this kind of abuse for so long and make excuses. i understand now...sincerely one of you.
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Registered: 11-12-2003
In reply to: tashaann
Thu, 03-11-2004 - 2:11am

Hi Tasha and welcome -


Please don't beat yourself up over what happened.

CL-Blueliner4

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Registered: 03-28-2003
In reply to: tashaann
Thu, 03-11-2004 - 9:38am
hugs and welcome. I was a strong willed young woman growing up and insisted that *I would NEVER put up with that crap from any man!* Well, I stayed with him for over 7 years putting up with it. You don't realize that it is abuse when you are in it. I felt that I wasn't being beat up, so it wasn't abuse. WRONG! The accusations, threats, smashing things, throwing my stuff around, name calling, put downs.... that's all abuse.

I am happy for you that you broke free!

jenny