He wants to move out?????
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| Thu, 03-11-2004 - 5:16pm |
Anyway, I'm rambling...he wants to move out...tomorrow....my birthday :-( he wants to separate. I told him no, seperating was no longer an option...it was now and only, divorce. He got a bit angry and I told him "look I'm not misleading you...its done...I'm divorcing you. And before you move out, I suggest you get a lawyer to look at those implications". I know that was probably stupid of me to tell him...but I never want to be accused of trying to screw him (which he'll probably do anyway).
At this point, I'm just like "just go, get your stuff and get out"...but I think he thinks that there still is a chance of making it better. Once he gets the summons he will be pissed as hell.
Anyone who's btdt that can offer any advice, thoughts?
To make matters worse, he talked to the kids last night, behind my back when I told him NOT TO (because he can't stop crying)...he apologized for being so crappy to them, and then told them "I guess your mother doesn't want me around anymore" and starting crying. Well, I don't find this out to this morning, when my oldest asks to talk to me after school and I had a feeling he had done this. When I asked him at lunch time (he loves to come and make me feel worse) he said yes...that he told them this and I told him he shouldn't have done this to them. So I talked to my older girls (16 and 13) they see what's going on...and seem o.k. with it. They have seen me sleeping downstairs, on the floor, for the past 9 months and KNOW something is amiss. And as my older dd put "What's going to change..he's never home and when he is, he's miserable....it will just be better". (but I know she was still upset by it.....)
Sigh...some birthday this will be. But on the bright side, 2 of my dd's have off from school tomorrow so I am planning to take them up to Toronto for the day to visit the Science museum up there...at least I'll spend with 3 of my kids and enjoy myself...hopefully the weather will cooperate!!
dharma

Oof, Dharma.
CL-Blueliner4
Happy Birthday and enjoy the day with your dd's!!
Pam