Feeling Numb

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Feeling Numb
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Fri, 03-12-2004 - 11:56am
Does anybody else just feel numb after a bout with your abuser. My hands are just now getting back warm after early this morning. Do they have any idea what they do to us? I'm so tired of it. No blasting, please, I don't need that.
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Registered: 02-28-2001
In reply to: chic45
Fri, 03-12-2004 - 12:58pm
Hey, chic, I'm glad your hands are finally warming up. The effect abusers have on us varies as much as recipes from chinese restaurants. Personally, I would always get nausea or stay in a constant state of anxiety, you know, the old "walking on eggshells" constantly. Since WO and I got away (11.14.99) I have gone through SOOO many changes, the most fantastic being that I no longer have to take blood pressure medicine, or any other cardiac medications (way long story there) and I attribute it mostly to divorcing doofus.

In an earlier post you asked why God made men. I don't have any ready answers there but I can recommend a book that might help you find the answers YOU need. I don't know if you are a Christian or whatever, and this book is most definitely written from a Christian viewpoint, but I think it can certainly help anyone who reads it. It's called "The Purpose Filled Life", by Rick Warren. While it may not give you the answers you want, it very well may help you in some respects. The book is based on a 40 day study and I am only on day 4, but I've already had so many AHA moments it is just amazing. Just wanted to toss that one out there for you if you think it might benefit you. Hope everything works out for you. Mama Harmony

Mama Harmony

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Registered: 01-22-2004
In reply to: chic45
Fri, 03-12-2004 - 1:41pm
i used to have anxiety attacks when my abusive h and i would fight. my hands would shake and eventually get numb. my heart rate would speed up and it felt like i couldn't breath. my whole body would numb up and i was so afraid. not sure if this is what you are experiencing. this is a symptom of a panic attack,which could get more serious then you'd think. check out this website:

www.anxieties.com

it got so bad that i'd have attacks even when my h wasn't around. my dr. ended up prescribing me meds for my attacks, but since i've left my h i haven't neeeded them. crazy, huh?