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| Fri, 03-12-2004 - 2:20pm |
Well here I am almost a year after telling him I wanted a divorce (april 6) and my life is better than I could have ever imagined. I am in school and am doing exceptionally well. My average is 96% and I am proud of myself. My first work term is approaching and on my instructors advice, I have been placed in a shelter for young women. They are homeless or pregnant or both, either from absusive relationships or not... I am very excited.
The road has been hard and continues to be in alot of ways. Money is scarce but my rent is paid and so are my bills. My kids are happy and I am a better parent. I am happy and have finally gotten used to not having to ask permission to do things, I am getting used to not being on a time limit and I have nobody to answer to but myself.
I have met a wonderful man who thinks the world of me. He treats me with respect and is caring. He values me as a person and respects my independance. Even when he is at his busiest, when he is under alot of pressure he stops and asks how my day was and genuinely cares about it. We talk about everything and I mean everything and he encourages that in me..something that was very hard to do. We have such unbeleivable communication and I love it. I don't know where it is going but we are enjoying the time we do spend together. We dont look too far into the future but take things day by day.
I treat myself to little things occasionally (bottle of wine with dinner, nail polish, a movie..you name it) and am greatful for everyday that I have been out.
My divorce will be final on July 1 and we are still awaiting a court date to settle custody, support and division of property but it will come and I dont stress over it.
So that is my update in the short version.
My advice to everyone is not to give up on your dreams, do not give up on yourself, beleive that you are the strong woman that you know you are. Always keep yourself and your children safe and remember that this board is full of wonderful women who have been where you are and have learned like I have.
Cheers!
Daisy

Happy Friday, my friend!
You sound like you are doing AWESOME!
CL-Blueliner4
Jackie
I'm so glad to "see" you! You sound fantastic! I'm moving forward, cautiously, but at least it is forward. I have made reservations for a summer trip to Virginia. I made the reservations for myself, dh, dd, and ds, but I'm hoping dh won't be in the picture in July when we go! Postive thinking. I don't want to be wondering again in a year from now.
Once I'm free, I'd love to travel to meet you and your little ones! Stay in touch, I will e-mail if I get a minute. I'm babysitting my grand son tonight!! Over night! I hope I get some sleep! If you find yourself free on Sunday, come to the chat. I believe dh will be out of the house so I hope to make it to chat as well.
Hugs to you, I'm really glad you posted!
Pam
You will go far in your career Daisy and it will bring you many rewards, sometimes they might not seem it, but you will find that they will help you to continue on into a far happier life for you and your children!
Huge hugs