Typical cycle

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Registered: 03-14-2004
Typical cycle
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Sun, 03-14-2004 - 12:42pm
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Edited 3/15/2004 3:57 pm ET ET by confuzzed9
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Mon, 03-15-2004 - 12:38am

Welcome to the board, confuzzed9.

Peace and hugs,

Cheryl =)

The minute you settle for less than you

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Registered: 07-08-2003
In reply to: confuzzed9
Mon, 03-15-2004 - 8:42am
Hey confuzzed, I'm sorry to hear about your weekend, and I can so identify with so much of what you posted. I too grew up in an alcoholic family so my tolerance for people disregarding my boundaries and mistreating me is ridiculously high. Unfortunately, one of the biproducts of having an alcoholic parent is that I inherited the disease. I've been in recovery now for 1 1/2 years (YEA!!!!!) and I feel wonderful. I'm working the 12 steps and have finally found peace and serenity in my life. I saw the behavior you described in your H in my father for the 18 years I lived at home. It's terrifying, its damaging, its abusive and you shouldn't have to live in it. THE ONLY WAY your H is going to be able to change this behavior is by surrendering to the disease of alcoholism and/or addiction, and making a commitment to work the 12 step program. If he does not see his drinking and drug use for the problem that it is, there's just no hope. He may go thru short spurts of being on the wagon, but unless he addresses the underlying problems (that he has a disease of his thinking as well as his drinking) he's hopeless.

I'm sorry for what you had to live thru, both now and in your childhood. For those of us who can't tolerate alcohol, I curse its arrival on this planet. It ruins lives and does more damage than any other substance known to man. JMHO. Love and hugs to you!

mo 7-18-10

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Mon, 03-15-2004 - 1:14pm
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