Steal a little inspiration...

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Registered: 11-12-2003
Steal a little inspiration...
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Mon, 03-15-2004 - 3:26pm

There’s a lot of newer members here on the board that may not know my background, and I think today is a wonderful day to post this, as this is my 18 month freedom anniversary.

CL-Blueliner4

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Mon, 03-15-2004 - 3:53pm

Its funny you mention how he HAS to have someone, like co-dependency.

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Mon, 03-15-2004 - 8:42pm
Hey Blue -

I'm not sure I ever "heard" your entire story - thank you for posting it now. I need to hear that it is ok to leave. I believe that I have been able to stop looking at him. I see that he is not healthy. That these are all his problems and unless he wants to look and see and acknowledge them, then they aren't going away because of me.

So, my fears? Leaving. And then having to deal with him. Comging back to get my stuff, figuring out exactly where I would go. Dealing with so many people who have no clue and won't be understanding. So, I am trying to work on me and how I will handle that. Any suggestions are certainly welcome!

Thank you for sharing your history with us - It does help those of us who aren't sure what to do and if it is ok. (Why DO I feel like I need someone's, anyone's ok to do stuff? I'm certainly not 3 years old!!)

Hugs,

Pam

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Registered: 01-26-2004
Mon, 03-15-2004 - 9:04pm
Thank you so much Blue. Thank you for the inspiration and thank you for letting us newbies know your story. Huge Hugs to you lady.

Ree

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 03-15-2004 - 10:53pm
Gabby, thank you....This was so beautiful to read. I, also am part Irish, and I have always enjoyed St. Patty's Day...but, two years ago, after a party, was the argument when H first got physical (I was standing in front of him, yelling at him, he was sitting on the couch, and he kicked me in the stomach). Last year, March was sort of a culmination of it all...there had been a few grabs, a few pushes, one slap...but nothing "TOO" bad...then, last March, he slammed me into a wall, and was choking me. I had to punch him in the mouth and draw blood to get him to let go of me and stop trying to kill me. That night I locked myself in the room, and tearfully called my friend on my cell. I was scared to stay, but even more scared to leave - I had been trying to put on my shoes, and call 911 when I was attacked so viciously. Anyway...fast forward...I wound up staying (I had nowhere to go) He entered counseling, took meds....and improved...however, just last week we argued, and he grabbed my arms so hard - to keep me from leaving with our son, basically, that I still am bruised....I can't wait until the day the wearin' o'the green will be a free day for me!!!! WTG Gabby!!!!!!
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Tue, 03-16-2004 - 1:20pm

I had my degrees thrown in my face, too.

CL-Blueliner4

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Tue, 03-16-2004 - 1:37pm

Trust me, Pam, this is the Cliff Notes version of my story.

CL-Blueliner4

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Registered: 11-12-2003
Tue, 03-16-2004 - 1:39pm

You are most welcome, Ree.

CL-Blueliner4

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Tue, 03-16-2004 - 1:46pm

I would love to be able to enjoy that day with you, my friend.

CL-Blueliner4

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Tue, 03-16-2004 - 5:58pm
You've come a long way baby!!!! WTG on your 18 month FREEDOM ANNIVERSARY!!! And, thank you for all you do for this board! HUGE HUGS!