How to help a friend?
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How to help a friend?
| Mon, 03-15-2004 - 11:22pm |
I have a friend that recently left a very controlling boyfriend. He called her multiple times a day and was always introducing her to girls that he wanted her to be friends with even though she has friends of her own. About 4 months ago they moved to another state together. She was always unhappy and left him for a week in January because of the problems they were having. About three weeks ago she moved home after he slammed her against the wall a couple of times and then pinned her to the bed. When he got up to leave, he took her cell phone, I.D., atm card, and her car so that she was completely isolated. Another person that they lived with broke up the encounter so there is no way to say how far he would have gone. He did tell her that if she bit him he would slap her. I'm worried because he is from an abusive family and they are trying to say it is his temper that is the problem. So he has taken an anger management class and is now in counseling. I can tell she really thinks that he is trying to change and that they have a chance. I'm not saying that there is now way he could change, but I feel like the odds are against him and she has set a time frame from 6 months to a year. How can he change in that short of a time? He doesn't really think he has a problem, he is only going because she has offered these solutions to him as a way for them to be together. I looked up the characteristics, and he matches them very closely. There are other incidents, but that was the most violent one? Am I wrong? If not, please give me advice to help her. I've sat down and talked to her, but each time it seems to only help for a couple of days and then she wants to talk to him and thinks he is going to be the one for her.

Yikes, how scary for her.
CL-Blueliner4