I'm closing on the house today . . .

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Registered: 12-10-2003
I'm closing on the house today . . .
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Tue, 03-16-2004 - 3:24pm
. . . (my old house, that is -- not the new one that I just got the contract on) and I'm getting *really* nervous about seeing the STBXH again! He's refinancing our house into his name, and we close on his new loan at 6:00 p.m. today. He's also bringing the title to his truck for me to sign over while we have the notary available to us. BUT -- I told him I will sign the title *only if* he provides proof that the old loan on his truck (which was in both of our names) is paid off.

In a way, I'm excited because this gets me one step closer to being done with it all, and it gets me one step closer to buying my new house as well, because closing on his loan is a condition of me getting my loan. But, in another way, I'm really apprehensive about the whole thing, because I'll have to see him again for the first time in I-don't-know-how-long.

Also, on Monday at 10:00 a.m., he is to come to my office to sign the last document needed to finalize the divorce. So, I'll have to deal with him again in six days . . . FABulous!

But, on the bright side, my boss/attorney is coming with me to the closing tonight, so I won't be completely alone and unrepresented. Also, there will be a witness who is sympathetic to my side of the story (as opposed to the mortgage closing agent, who is working for STBXH), so maybe he'll be a little less inclined to "act up" in front of everyone. But, I'm not holding my breath . . . wish me luck!

Love & Hugs,

Emm

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Registered: 11-12-2003
Tue, 03-16-2004 - 3:27pm

Oh, your boss is cool.

CL-Blueliner4

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Registered: 12-10-2003
Tue, 03-16-2004 - 3:57pm
Thanx for the good luck vibes, Gabby! I'm sure everything will work out OK eventually . . . it's just getting to "eventually" that's the frustrating part!

Well, all I can say is it's a good thing the nerfherders aren't sophisticated enough to unite . . . then they might have one whole brain between them all, and they might actually be a force to be reckoned with, huh?!?! ;oP

Love & Hugs,

Emm

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 03-16-2004 - 8:06pm
Wow, you have a lot going on.

When someone shows you who they are, believe them.

- Maya Angelou

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Wed, 03-17-2004 - 7:45am
Thanks, Sweet! Yeah, sometimes I wish I had a little *less* going on! But, I guess when I get through all of this, things will be much better. I just can't wait to move into my new house!

Last night's closing went OK, but not great. The mortgage company he's using specializes in "high-risk" loans, and they seemed kind of unprepared. They didn't even have a deed for me to sign! But, they did give me some documents to sign that basically removes me from the existing mortgage and sets up a new mortgage in STBXH's name alone. Now, my boss and I need to draft a deed for me to sign which gives up my interest in the property. I'll be giving that to STBXH on Monday at 10:00 a.m. when he comes to my office to sign the last of the divorce documents.

Also, I did get his truck signed over into his name last night, and I gave him his half of our tax return, as well. So, I guess we're almost done. I can file to finalize the divorce on Monday (WOO-HOO!!!) and I will be signing the deed to the house on Monday, as well. I think those are the last things we need to take care of (with the exception of me getting my dog out of his house) and then we're done. Thank God!!!

Love & Hugs,

Emm

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Registered: 04-04-2003
Wed, 03-17-2004 - 8:53am

My goodness Emm.

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Registered: 12-10-2003
Wed, 03-17-2004 - 11:08am
Thanks, Wishful! That sounds like a FABULOUS idea! I think I could use a day at our local day spa. I've done it before -- my mom went with me -- and we had a *great* time! Sometimes, that really helps . . . just to take some "me time" and relax for awhile. I just can't wait until I can move into my new place! We're supposed to close on the house on April 23. I know that's only about a month away, but it feels like *forever*! ;o)

Love & Hugs,

Emm