Court hearings

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Registered: 11-07-2003
Court hearings
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Tue, 03-16-2004 - 4:04pm
I have to go to court tomorrow to make my temporary protection order permanent. It will be good for six months after that. I am worried that I might not get it because my ex-fiance seems to be fighting it all the way. I don't know where I will go if I have to be the one to move out (I can't live there with him). I'd hate to try to move to another place only to move again when my contract with work is up. And I think he has cajoled my neighbor into being a witness for him instead of for me like she said she would. I don't know what she can say in his defense, but I am worried that I won't get the order and I need it for my sanity. It's silly for him to try to live there on his own as he has no job and I've been paying all the bills. I guess I just needed to vent about my worries. I know one way or another it will be okay, but I don't understand why he can't admit he was wrong and leave me alone. I guess that would be too easy. Anyway, wish me luck tomorrow. I hope that I can get my order and have a little bit of peace.

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Registered: 11-12-2003
In reply to: pepomntpat
Tue, 03-16-2004 - 4:29pm

Fingers crossed, Pat, and good luck!

CL-Blueliner4

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Registered: 11-07-2003
In reply to: pepomntpat
Tue, 03-16-2004 - 4:38pm
I have an attorney..my grandmother is paying for him (thank God for family support...I feel very lucky). I have two witnesses who saw what he did as far as trying to throw me out the door as well as what he did to my cat and my apartment. My mother is coming for moral support. I think that is it. I already have my outfit picked for tomorrow and it is the same judge who issued my temporary order and he was fantastic. Down to earth, great at explaining things in normal speak without being condescending. I am just nervous about how I will react to any lies he might tell. I know that I can control myself from yelling or acting out, but inside I'm afraid I'll just fall apart. I thought I loved him and now realize I don't even know him...that's hard enough, but then to have him tell lies (because how else can he defend his actions) might just be more than I can take. I just don't get it.
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Registered: 11-12-2003
In reply to: pepomntpat
Tue, 03-16-2004 - 5:00pm

I'm glad you're not going alone.

CL-Blueliner4