been a while

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Registered: 01-22-2004
been a while
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Thu, 03-18-2004 - 10:42am
just wanted to say hello and let everyone know i'm still here and still fighting.

i'm happy to say i'm still alone and doing well. very well actually. things have just been going my way this week. my h and i have cut off all contact. he deosn't even come to pick up his daughter. althought he did surprise me last week when he snuck up to my house and sat on my front porch and listened to a conversation a friend and i were having. the next morning i caught him riding by my house. i'm filing a restraining order in two weeks. i'm also making plans to file for divorce. my money is tight right now so i'm doing what i can when i can do it.

i'm absolutly sure this is what i want now. i'm sure i have a long way to go but it has been a battle from the beginning. couldn't have done it w/o this board and all of you women who have offered your stories and advice. thanks so much.

my kids are great. we never did counseling but i did sit down and throw all the old rules out the window and laid down some new ones. i've also started meditating and and doing yoga to relax. this really helps. i never thought about giving my emotions a break. i also hear my h is seeing someone else and you know what? i don't care. he can see or do whoever he wants as long as it isn't me. i've started making mommy time once a week and i try to get out w/ my friends and have a good time. i also make time for the kids once a week. we call it kids day out. last week it was lunch and shopping for a toy and this week they get two things. the zoo and a st. paddy's day parade.

i just wanted to check in and let everyone know how i was doing. i'll come back more often then i have been lately.

mel

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Registered: 03-29-2003
In reply to: imel240
Thu, 03-18-2004 - 7:43pm
We missed you...just hang in there -- you really sound good/grounded. I think you're definitely doing the right thing by getting the RO...and taking things as you can manage them. We are all here for you no matter how often you post. ~~gentle hugs and support your way
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Registered: 12-10-2003
In reply to: imel240
Fri, 03-19-2004 - 9:43am
Well congratualtions on your success, it always wonderful to hear stories like this especially as I am struggling to get on my own feet after leaving my h. Keep up the great work and I love the idea about Mommy time, something I think I may implement in the future! I already do the kids day and tommorow we are going on a Sugar Bush run to see them making maple syrop, taking a horse ride into the woods etc. I usually do some shopping or reading on my lunch, unfortunately, stbx only has supervised access due to drug and alchohol problems and i prefer to be with the kids when he sees them so no break there.

Anyway, I am glad you are doing so well, it is truly an inspiration to all of us.