H is at it again!

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Registered: 12-01-2003
H is at it again!
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Thu, 03-18-2004 - 12:50pm
In yesterdays mail that my worker brought to me there is this letter from an attorney saying that his office is representing my husband. H is trying to get more parenting time with DS, in the restraining order he was granted 24 hours every first and third weekend. When H contested the TRO the judge told him then that was standard visitation for a child my son's age and if he wants more then he has to basically file for a divorce. So the letter says that before they file any papers with the court, H has some vacation time coming up and would like to spend some of it with his son, am I agreeable to parenting time in addition to what is in the restraining order, would I be willing to meeet with a mediator, do I tend to file for divorce and to give him a call or drop him a note and let him know.

First of all my worker said that this attorney is a dirtbag (she had him for her divorce and he screwed up everything), second of all my worker said that H is violating the TRO because he is having a third party contact me, (I don't know if that is true or not), the letter is not a legal document or anything, just a letter like I would write to someone. I was told by someone else that this attorney basically represents all dirtbags in town, so I don't know if I should be worried or not. Personally I feel that it is none of this attorney's business if I plan on filing for a divorce or not, if and when I do they will know then. My worker said that I don't have to let him know anything, but I was wondering if I can get in trouble if I don't reply to the attorney's letter. She said that he will use it and turn it around on me in court if I did agree to any of his requests. Any thoughts, thank you.

Angel

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Registered: 04-04-2003
Thu, 03-18-2004 - 1:13pm
This is a good question to ask Blueliner or Bama about even our HummerGirl.
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Registered: 11-12-2003
Thu, 03-18-2004 - 2:01pm

Call the agency that issued the RO to find out whether or not this is a violation (3rd party contact).

CL-Blueliner4

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Registered: 11-11-2003
Thu, 03-18-2004 - 9:16pm

Honey, you need to proceed very carefully.

Peace and hugs,

Cheryl =)

The minute you settle for less than you

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Registered: 11-24-2003
Fri, 03-19-2004 - 7:17am
I suggest contacting your local VICTIM ASSISTANCE PROGRAM. They can set you up with an attorney that can answer your legal questions and explain to you what your rights are. Everyone is right about not trusting his lawyer and you are doing good about following your instincts. This guy is just trying to get to you from all angels. He will use your child to get to you. Be very careful and contact an attorney.

Hugs,

Harley

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Registered: 12-10-2003
Fri, 03-19-2004 - 9:44am
I am no lawyer but I would think that you could throw that letter in the trash without any consenquences at all. If it were "legal" then chances are it wouldbe served by a process server and would contain court dates etc. i would chuck it out Angel, if it was anything legal you could be sure you would know it was legal. All they are doing is digging for info that they have absolutely no right to and you are right to be suspicious. Do not under any circumstances go outside the TRO, you wil lthen be voiding it and that would not be good. He needs to stay with in those limits and I do not know what he is trying to pull but it does not sound good at at ll. He probably will use it against you in court so i would just clam up and ignore the whole thing. Have you got an attorney of your own yet? I would start looking or applying for legal aid anyway because it sound as if he is getting ready to start throwing dirt and I would want to be prepared for that. big hugs for you and my prayers are with you.