I still don't know what to do....

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Registered: 11-19-2003
I still don't know what to do....
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Thu, 03-18-2004 - 2:25pm
I talked to my mom yesterday and told her everything that has gone on in the last week. She already knows how things have been. So, I told her about his ultimatum and threats and the whole nine yards and all she said was, "Hmmmmm, I don't know what you do in a situation like that." Then she started telling me about problems my brother is having with his fiance. So, I turned the conversation back to my situation again and she said a few things that weren't helpful or encouraging and then said she had better go, we had been on for a long time and my dad kept coming to see if she was still on the phone.

I don't know what the heck I'm supposed to do. I'm thinking of calling my other sister. She was in a physically abusive marriage until her H killed himself. It has been years and I was only around 8 or 9 when it happened, so she has never really talked to me about it much, although, I was at her home when a lot of things took place. But I don't know if it will help me know what to do, or not.

I hate this feeling of confusion! I like knowing what I'm going to do and then doing it. This is so unlike me! It makes me hate him even more for making me be something I'm not. And now, he's acting like nothing happened when he is on the phone with me, but when he comes home, he doesn't speak to me unless he has to. It is very unreal and creepy.

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Registered: 11-12-2003
Thu, 03-18-2004 - 2:36pm

It sounds like your mom is doing some avoidance with you, possibly due to the other sister's experiences.

CL-Blueliner4