I am so mad at my ex-in-laws!!!

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I am so mad at my ex-in-laws!!!
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Fri, 03-19-2004 - 4:59pm

Well, it's spring break here this week and Hannah is at her dad's for the week.

Peace and hugs,

Cheryl =)

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Fri, 03-19-2004 - 5:23pm
What idiots! Whose the child here??? Awwwwwwww Cheryl, I'm so sorry. I can't imagine how painful this must be for you and for Dani. I don't have much time to post right now, but I do have a similar story to share about grandparents treatment of grandchildren -- my brother is still suffering with the effects. Ultimately, we must all make our decision to surround ourselves with healthy people or not to -- even if they are related to us. More soon sweetie; vent as much as you want...There is much to be frustrated about~~gentle hugs my friend...
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Fri, 03-19-2004 - 5:25pm

Good god, what heartless people.

CL-Blueliner4

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Sat, 03-20-2004 - 4:52am
Cheryl,

Well, you can see where Eric got his wonderful personality from. That is disgusting that those people would do that to a child. Sometimes I just can't figure people out. Poor Dani. Definitely call about the child support, and don't let it get you down on what he says bad about you. Last week when I was cleaning I found a letter that my X-MIL wrote to my daughter a few years back. I had bought my daughter what I thought was a really nice ski coat for Christmas. She didn't come out and say it, but she really didn't like it. I knew that, but I never expect to bat 100% every Christmas, so I really didn't let it bother me. Well, in this letter, the x wrote that she was concerned about my daughter being warm this winter and will send her money to buy a nice coat. She then wrote...this was underlined. "It will be between us, you mom will never know about it." or something to that effect...I burnt the letter. I thought you B*****, I never had a chance with that whole family. I always felt like MIL tried to undermine me, now I know it. Don't let it get you down, consider the source and explain to Dani that there are people like this in the world and she doesn't deserve to be treated like that. There are plenty of others out there that love her and not to waste her time worrying about inconsiderate a**holes (good old ithomer got me using that word).

Hang in there!

Terry

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Sat, 03-20-2004 - 11:17am
When it rains, it pours.

Peace and hugs,

Cheryl =)

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Sat, 03-20-2004 - 7:28pm
Like always, with the help of her loving Mother, she will struggle through and deal with whatever life brings to her -- even the awful stuff...and she will survive it and be, ultimately healthier for it. In the midst of trauma we see not the growth that trauma brings. It is in these moments of true struggle that our futures are illuminated and true growth occurs. You know, I have also thought about the "amount" of trauma my girls have been had to endure in their short young lives. I hadn't posted the following, but it has been a rough time for us too -- my Grandmother died just before X-mas, then my eldest's fish died just 2 weeks later; last week we put our 14 year old cat to sleep. I was feeling guilty about how much death my girls have had to deal with and, in many ways, they are also dealing with the death of their family unit. I never remembered, as a child, experiencing so much terminal reality and of-course was beating myself up about the reality I have given my girls; but then, last week, as I was crying a bit over the loss of my kitty (pre-husband and children, he was my #1 man ;^) and my 7 yo DD said to me, "Mommy, you will not feel like this forever...this is the circle of life." And, you know, through my tears I had to smile, because she is wise beyond her years and her insights are heartwarming and assure me that children will, given the outlets for emotional discourse, manage the pain in which they are dealt. I hope my ramblings made some sense here. I hope you know that I am so sorry for Dani's trauma. I also know that you will help her get to the other side...as you always have.~~gentle hugs dear friend
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Sun, 03-21-2004 - 12:32am
Thanks for that, sweetie.

Peace and hugs,

Cheryl =)

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Mon, 03-22-2004 - 10:44am
Which goes to show the POS's don't care whose heart they cut out as long as they look like the victim to someone else.
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Tue, 03-23-2004 - 11:51pm

I know that I should have expected something like this from them, but I just didn't think that educated adults behaved that way to children.

Peace and hugs,

Cheryl =)

The minute you settle for less than you